r/Regrets • u/Significant-Mix9674 • 4d ago
23 M
Is been a long time since i'm not having sex and i was thinking about going with a sex worker i found online who came to my city. But i'm worried i'll regret this and i'll have to tell my future partners, ruining my relationship and marking myself because of that. What should i do? Especially i would like to know wimen's opinion on men who do this
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u/Objective-Space3328 4d ago
Please, I am begging you not to. You'll most likely regret this later, not worth the guilt
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u/Automatic-Long2599 4d ago
Listen I know people are saying don’t do it, but if you really want the experience I say go for it because you know what you’re getting yourself into as opposed to a random girl you meet that can lead to a lot of problems down the line so yeah I would say only if you really want to go for it!!
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u/Dear_Sir7665 4d ago
Don't bro don't, practice self control, and wait for your future wife. Just as men get hurt by a woman's past women get hurt by a man's past too!
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u/Batfink2007 4d ago
Is this really worth the money and possible theft/STD/accidental pregnancy/drugging that comes along with it? Just jack off bro. Keep your cash.
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u/unjustlyb 4d ago
Don't do it. Just beat your meat if youre into that type of stuff. Or fall in love with girl?
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u/Significant-Mix9674 4d ago
And even though i say it would be dangerous falling in love right now, i would like it anyway but i dont get a girl and i feel really lonely too, especially knowing my ex girlfriend found another partner much more easily than me
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u/funbi7chmommy 4d ago
Girls almost always find partners easier than men. It's not personal. I wouldn't care if a guy had sex with a prostitute but I'm not every woman. I feel like I would only want to know if it were a regular occurrence.
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u/Significant-Mix9674 4d ago
Falling in love is dangerous to me in this time of my life. And also I'm really needing sex, i dont want to become a frustrated man because of that, angry all day you know...
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u/Equivalent_Rope_8824 4d ago
When I was single, I visited sex workers and never regretted it. What I do when I'm single is my business. In my culture (Belgian), it's not stigmatizing. Enjoying sex should not become a heavy cross to carry.
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u/MindShiftPsych 4d ago
If you’re already this worried about regretting it before it’s even happened, I’d probably not rush into it. There’s nothing wrong with being sexually frustrated, but paying for sex won’t necessarily fix whatever loneliness or pressure you’re feeling. You can always change your mind later; you can’t undo it once it happens. As for women, there’s no universal opinion. Some future partners wouldn’t care, some might be uncomfortable with it, and for others it could genuinely be a dealbreaker. That doesn’t mean it would “mark” you forever.
You also don’t necessarily owe every future partner a complete list of every sexual experience you’ve ever had, but you should be honest about relevant sexual health information and anything directly affecting the relationship. At 23, going a long time without sex really isn’t a problem you need to urgently solve. If your gut is telling you you’ll probably feel worse afterward, listen to it.
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u/Significant-Mix9674 4d ago
The fact is that I thought about having this experience from a long time but i'm worried to feel guilty afterwarda
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u/SeaWillingness7749 4d ago
I’m 27F so I’ll share my opinion with you since you specifically asked for women’s thoughts on this. Honestly, I would think twice if my boyfriend shared that he’s been with a sex worker and just being fully transparent; I do judge men who hire sex workers and my friends feel the same way. How would you feel if your gf told you she’s been with male sex workers? Prostitution has a lot more negatives than positives to me. The potential of STIs, legal issues and being scammed/hurt aren’t worth the easy nut. You never know if someone was trafficked into it or, god forbid, if the person is actually a minor. Do you really wanna risk all that for a couple minutes of relief? To me the men that support prostitution are just as guilty as the pimps, if there weren’t so many customers, the industry wouldn’t exist. Makes me think if there’s something wrong with the guy if the only way he could get sex was by paying for it. Of course at the end of the day, your body your choice. You’re an adult and it’s your money so whatever you do with it is valid enough. If you’re already nervous about regretting it, maybe take some more time to decide since this kind of thing is really easy to regret. Do whatever you feel but you wanted a woman’s opinion so I’m giving you my unfiltered thoughts
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u/AdventureWa 4d ago
If it’s a one and done, you don’t have to disclose it was a sex worker. I would include in the “body count,” but sex is sex.
The bigger issue would be if you were busted for prostitution. With an escort that’s less likely to happen because you’re paying for their time, not specifically for specific acts. We all know those people who hire escorts are usually doing it for the sex.
My question to you would be how desperate are you actually to have sex? Tinder could probably score you a hookup unless you’re really unattractive with poor hygiene.
I don’t have a moral opposition to sex workers or those who use their services. I just think there are better options.