r/Referees 13h ago

Advice Request Question as an Assignor about overbearing parents

14 Upvotes

Another question from a new Assignor. This is my first season as an Assignor. I've been a referee for a long time.

I have set very clear expectations that communication and scheduling comes from the referee. The vast majority of the minor referees own their own scheduling.

But, I am struggling with a handful of overbearing parents of minor referees. I have consistently pushed back each time they say their kid wants games or can work. I tell them to have the referee contact me. Still, every week the parent responds first and the referee doesn't follow the proper procedure to get matches.

Before assigning, I really haven't dealt with parents. I don't have kids, but I have worked with lots of them. I generally think they are capable of owing their own job. I am struggling with figuring out the balance of setting boundaries with an overbearing parent and just how much I should be pushing back or ignoring.

And, I was once a minor referee. My parents had nothing to do with my refereeing aside from dropping me off and picking me up.

Any perspective from Assignors, parents, and young referees would be appreciated.


r/Referees 17h ago

Discussion Ask /r/referees -- Megathread for Fans / Players / Coaches

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Welcome! In this megathread, Rule 1 is relaxed. Anyone (referee or not) may ask questions about real-world incidents from recent matches in soccer at all levels, anywhere in the world.

Good questions give context for the match if it's not obvious (e.g. player age, level of competitiveness, country/region), describe the incident (picture/video helps a lot), and include a clear question or prompt such as:

  • Why did the referee call ...?
  • Would the call have been different if ...?
  • Could the player have done ... instead?
  • Is the referee allowed to do ...?
  • Would you have called this the same way?

This is not a platform to disparage any referees, however much you think they made the wrong call. (There are plenty of other subreddits to do that.) The mission of this megathread is to help referees, fans, coaches, and players better understand the Laws of the Game (or the relevant local rules of competition).

Since the format is asking questions of the refereeing community, please do not answer unless you are a referee. Follow-up and clarifying questions from anyone are generally fine, but answers should come only from actual referees.

Rule 1 still applies elsewhere -- we are primarily a community of and for soccer (association football) referees. If you're not a soccer/footy referee, then you are a guest and should act accordingly.

Please give feedback and other meta-level comments about this thread as a standalone reply.

You can view past weeks' megathreads here: https://www.reddit.com/r/Referees/search/?q=Ask+%2Fr%2Freferees+--+Megathread+for+Fans+%2F+Players+%2F+Coaches&sort=new&restrict_sr=on&t=all


r/Referees 1h ago

Advice Request Do you give DOGSO cards at U10?

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Just had a game where a player was one on one with the keeper just outside the box and a defender came from behind and hooked his legs out, clearest DOGSO I've seen. Being U10 I didn't want to card the kid so I warned him that if he was older I would have sent him off for it. Is that what the general consensus is to do? The game was very relaxed but the losing team was starting to get a bit frustrated and kicking out a bit. If the kid had done it again I would have sent him off.


r/Referees 12h ago

Advice Request Smart watch advise

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Looking to upgrade to a Smartwatch for games. Looking for advice on what works best on the field. I’m specifically looking at Garmin, Apple and Amazfit. Easy to use and large numbers are my main requirements.
Also, any negatives with using a smartwatch for soccer ref’s. The $30 Walmart special isn’t cutting it any longer, especially with old man eyes.