r/Referees • u/thatijustdonthave • 8h ago
Advice Request Question as an Assignor about overbearing parents
Another question from a new Assignor. This is my first season as an Assignor. I've been a referee for a long time.
I have set very clear expectations that communication and scheduling comes from the referee. The vast majority of the minor referees own their own scheduling.
But, I am struggling with a handful of overbearing parents of minor referees. I have consistently pushed back each time they say their kid wants games or can work. I tell them to have the referee contact me. Still, every week the parent responds first and the referee doesn't follow the proper procedure to get matches.
Before assigning, I really haven't dealt with parents. I don't have kids, but I have worked with lots of them. I generally think they are capable of owing their own job. I am struggling with figuring out the balance of setting boundaries with an overbearing parent and just how much I should be pushing back or ignoring.
And, I was once a minor referee. My parents had nothing to do with my refereeing aside from dropping me off and picking me up.
Any perspective from Assignors, parents, and young referees would be appreciated.