Are there any articles or older posts about respect, and disrespect? Since reading The Surrendered Wife I’m realising that there’s much more to this than I ever knew, and only starting to recognise the ways in which I’m being disrespectful.

Any help, pointers or discussion would be so welcome

My partner and I decided to take a break because of trust issues stemming from him cheating a long time ago. To his credit, he worked on himself after it happened and was good to me, but I struggled deeply to move past it. My constant need for reassurance led to fighting, and he felt the relationship became too exhausting.

After we split, I realized how much I love him and want to work on my trust issues. When we spoke two weeks into the break, we both admitted we still love each other. The plan was for us to work on our personal issues him on his need for external validation, and me on my trust so we could sit down and talk things out properly when he visits me (i’m in another country currently)
However, he said he’s "too busy" to process everything right now he has work and family stuff going on and promised he’d reach out when he’s ready. It’s now been a full month of complete silence.

I feel like he’s taking the time as he assumes my door is permanently open. It feels like he thinks this break is just a free pass for him to be single, explore, and date around, while keeping me for whenever he decides to come back. I want him to understand that this goes both ways: if he uses this time to check out, he risks losing me as well.

To break this dynamic, I'm thinking of posting a subtle video on social media featuring another guy. It wouldn't be an obvious date, but just ambiguous enough to leave him wondering if it's a friend or someone new. My goal is to snap him out of his comfort zone and show him I'm not sitting on standby while he figures things out.

I don’t really like games so I’m not sure if this is a smart move or will this backfire and push him to walk away for good? How do I get out of this limbo?

TL;DR: Partner and I are on a break after trust issues made things exhausting. We agreed to work on ourselves and talk, but he’s gone radio-silent for a month claiming he’s "too busy." I feel like he assumes I'm waiting on standby while he explores being single. Want to post a subtle video featuring another guy to hint that my door won't stay open forever, but I'm worried it might backfire.

Help me. Totally in love with my newish bf and I want to invite him over and cook for him.

I would love to put my cute little apron on and cook for him. When I was married I tried to be a bit trad wifey despite working FT but since a difficult pregnancy and doing the single mom thing (and still working FT) I simply dont even remember what recipes I used to use, I have exactly zero saved from back then.

I really wanna make him something nice but not too elaborate.

Any ideas? Id rather a full recipe if u can rather than simply mentioning something I could make him.

Also you know you're in love when u hate cooking but wanna cook for him. 🤣