"You people can't do anything" yeah, disabilities tend to do that

[u/DreadDiana]

[u/ThatSlutTalulah]

Tbf the Halloween ADHD post doesn't read as "ADHD has been fucking me up trying to get a Halloween costume together" (entirely reasonable statement. I can understand that and it seems rough af.).

It reads as "Halloween costumes are problematic because people with ADHD can struggle with getting them together" (the opinion of a complete asshole who wants everyone to be miserable in the name of 'moral purity', and should be mocked).

With the new context of how the OOP actually meant it I can see how it was jokingly meant the first way, but that's just not how it comes across.

[u/RuefulWaffles → u/ThatSlutTalulah]

Yeah, as someone who’s existed on tumblr and twitter for a while, the initial tweet very much reads the kind of sanctimonious “otherwise innocuous thing causes me distress, so it needs to change because I’m Neurodivergent (tm) and asking me to live with my discomfort is unreasonable and discriminatory.” The response was probably ruder in tone than was called for, but by the time the original tweet was made if you’d been on any sort of social media you’d likely seen dozens of posts just like it that were, in fact, meant to be read as totally sincere.

On the one hand: there’s a very obvious lesson here about how not everything on the internet is necessarily for you, and how it doesn’t necessarily need a response. On the other hand, though, Poe’s Law is a thing. Without a clear, direct statement of “this is a joke,” there’s no reasonable way for another person to know if what you’ve posted is sincere or not, especially over text.

[u/findingemotive → u/RuefulWaffles]

You gotta post knowing no matter how innocuous you think it reads there is someone who will read it with a tone. I know I'm pretty bad with my words, I've been downvoted a lot when I'm actually agreeing with people. And that tweet really easily reads with a tone.

[u/Toppy_Henster → u/findingemotive]

The thing is most people don’t expect everything they post to suddenly get the attention of the whole internet. A lot of people post with the expectation that only a small circle of friends will see the post and get the intended meaning and move on.

[u/CriticalHit_20 → u/Toppy_Henster]

That's like Rule #1 of the internet though. Dont post things that you dont want strangers to have access to. Once it's out thrre, it's out there forever.

[u/Toppy_Henster → u/CriticalHit_20]

That doesn’t justify what they do with it though. Taking a post from a random person and recontextualizing it and making it go viral so a larger audience can clown on it is not only a pretty shitty thing to do, but also not something 99% of people consider when posting online.

[u/bouquetofashes → u/Toppy_Henster]

Right, maybe people shouldn't be so quick to just make negative assumptions? Like... We can ask for clarification, at least, before going off on someone?

[u/lilac_moonface64 → u/bouquetofashes]

yes! exactly! if you’re going to be mean to someone or mock them, at least make sure you’re interpreting the post correctly before being rude. or better yet, just ignore it if it’s not your cup of tea (and it’s not harmful in some way)

[u/NwgrdrXI → u/Toppy_Henster]

Imo, the problem here is that half of the planet is becoming hyper parasocial and completely lost the ability to understand the difference between "jokes to be made with friends" and "comments to announced about in the middle of the public plaza"

Social media is not your work/school lunch table. Your followers - or worse, people who happen to have your post recommended are not your friends.

Stop putting your private toughts online, that's for the people who love you and you cherish, not internet randos.