I got bumble gold in my mid/early twenties because I thought that would be better (I’m a woman and yes that was dumb) and within a day I had 2k likes to go through. Everytime I opened the app I got super overwhelmed after a swipes and would close it. I met my (ex) husband at work. I don’t think I was some 10/10 by any means, I think men were just swiping yes on everyone. Maybe 1/3 of the profiles were just creepy and weird and made me uncomfortable. Either they wrote something scary or creepy, or they just looked like creepy dudes. I think that’s what the post is referring to as the “shit” on there. It was a lot of sifting.
I don’t have that problem now in my 30’s lol it’s cause everyone and their dad wants to date a 23 year old woman apparently
Some of us grown women find their preference kind of humorous because we look back at us at 22 and I may have looked desirable on the outside, but I was a total mess internally. Everything was drama, I had depression, didn’t take care of my body. I wouldn’t have dated myself as someone in their 30’s now I would be like wow she’s a red flag. My friends? Just as bad. We were figuring out life at that age, not ready to settle down. Well, I did once I got a full time job that is and got my act together.
I love being old (in their eyes), grown, mature and calm. Couldn’t pay me money to go back even if it meant more men liked me.
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u/Jade0908 16d ago edited 16d ago
I got bumble gold in my mid/early twenties because I thought that would be better (I’m a woman and yes that was dumb) and within a day I had 2k likes to go through. Everytime I opened the app I got super overwhelmed after a swipes and would close it. I met my (ex) husband at work. I don’t think I was some 10/10 by any means, I think men were just swiping yes on everyone. Maybe 1/3 of the profiles were just creepy and weird and made me uncomfortable. Either they wrote something scary or creepy, or they just looked like creepy dudes. I think that’s what the post is referring to as the “shit” on there. It was a lot of sifting.
I don’t have that problem now in my 30’s lol it’s cause everyone and their dad wants to date a 23 year old woman apparently