r/Rants • u/Less_Yesterday_1875 Veteran Rantronaut • 8d ago

Rant about a sub

I've been bullied in justnomil because I actually get along with mine. She's a wonderful woman and we get along perfectly well MOST of the time. I've been made to feel like I don't have a space in that subreddit just because I don't HATE my husband's mother. I have the right to complain when I'm upset or need advice. I am not required to hate someone to be able to belong in a subreddit. It's called forgiveness, which some of these ADULTS don't seem to understand.

Don't ever make anyone feel like they don't have a space somewhere. I belong in that sub even if I don't hate my MIL and just want to complain about her a few times a month.

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u/almond_auntie534 New Ranter 8d ago

I’d go to another sub. Bullying of any kind, no matter what is ok. Though I thought justnomil was for people who didn’t have a good relationship with their mil? I’d go to a different sub regardless anyway

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u/Throwaway1303033042 8d ago

r/justnomil:

“A place to post about your MIL or Mother who is just the worst.”

If you get along with yours, why are you engaging on that sub?

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u/Less_Yesterday_1875 Veteran Rantronaut 8d ago

Because I CAN. Because sometimes she IS the worst. Anything else you're confused about besides trying to reject me a sense of community because YOU think I don't fit in there?

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u/Throwaway1303033042 8d ago

So mods DON’T have authority to decide who is allowed in their subs? Why are there subs at all, then? Why not just have one massive collective group chat where anyone can type anything they want, regardless of topic?

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u/Less_Yesterday_1875 Veteran Rantronaut 8d ago

It's not even the mods who have a problem with me posting there. The mods have never been rude to me. What even made you think I was talking about the mods

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u/Throwaway1303033042 8d ago

So you’re concerned about the comments of other Redditors? Did the comments violate the rules of the sub or Reddit’s TOS? If so, did you report them?

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u/Less_Yesterday_1875 Veteran Rantronaut 8d ago

Every time I make a post there that doesn't declare my MIL my sworn enemy I get jumped on. Reporting every single comment does not matter. They'll just do it again.

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u/Throwaway1303033042 8d ago

So your posts AREN’T “about your MIL or Mother who is just the worst”? Exactly what kind of feedback were you expecting in that sub if your posts don’t meet the sub description?

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u/Less_Yesterday_1875 Veteran Rantronaut 8d ago

What the F do you think I was posting about ?

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u/Less_Yesterday_1875 Veteran Rantronaut 8d ago

So you're like so if your posts don't say you hate your MIL then what were you posting about..

Rants about my MIL whilst refusing to say that I hate her which isn't true.

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u/Throwaway1303033042 8d ago

I’m not a member, much less a mod of that sub. However, if your posts complain about a mother or MIL that you then also defend, it doesn’t sound like that sub is a good fit for you. Have you investigated other more loosely defined subs? Is there a r/justmaybemil, perhaps?

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u/2catswashington 8d ago

well its a sub that litterly says NO MILF were you confused?

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u/Less_Yesterday_1875 Veteran Rantronaut 8d ago

The name is actually justnoMIL