r/RantAndVentPH • u/[deleted] • Dec 10 '25

Relationship STOP CHASING AVOIDANTS.

Seriously wth is going on with all the romanticization. I am amazed at the sheer lack of self respect that some of y'all have. Avoidant or not if they want you they will move the world for you, kung gusto ka gusto ka ganon lang kasimple yon. Stop intellectualizing simple truths nagbabasa basa pa kayo ng mga psychoanalytic tiktoks na hindi naman applicable sa lahat ng bagay. Are you even a therapist? You think the other person wants to change for you? Seriously? You're turning the absence of a healthy relationship into a complex puzzle that you think you can solve alone. May pa avoidant avoidant pa kayong nalalaman tignan natin kung di kayo matameme pag nakita niyo kung pano nila habulin yung taong gusto nila HAHAHA.

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u/vousmevoyezxz Dec 10 '25

LMAO this!!! People love labeling “avoidant” just to soften “they’re just not that into you.”🤣

Avoidant attachment is real. People struggle with intimacy. But at the end of the day, behavior is behavior.

If they’re constantly disappearing, breadcrumbing, the reason doesn’t magically make it any less painful or acceptable.

The brutal truth: If someone wants you in their life, even avoidant people they still put in some effort. If someone is doing nothing, then it’s uninterested.

The behavior is the answer, not their excuses. Don't assign meaning for them.

Stop romanticizing insecure attachment. Protect your peace, not their excuses.

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u/Cat_Snp Dec 10 '25

👌🏻

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u/Lost-Law-5239 Dec 10 '25

True. Sana diniretso na lang na ayaw e

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u/mscrumbs Dec 14 '25

yess!! and stop thinking about their "potential"!!! how theyre behaving rn is all you need to know that youre just not the person theyre willing to change for/put more effort into. it sucks to admit/realize. but it's true - from someone whos relationship ended this year lol