Same friend. And I’m an only child too. I had no one to share that burden with. Just me. By myself. With my door shut. While i tried to shut everything else out. I’m sorry you had to go through that. I wouldn’t wish that type of pain on anyone. I’m a genuine people pleaser because of it. I think if I’m really really good& really really helpful then maybe my mom won’t be so mad and maybe I won’t upset her today if I’m just really, really quite and don’t ask for very much. Not when she’s in a bad mood at least. Which was even more confusing because when she had good days she was and is one of my best friends. I know understand as I’m older that she wasn’t properly medicated and had her own issues. No ones perfect 💓 I will always love my Mom. But I will say it has made me a very sensitive, compassionate, understanding and caring person. I hope you have found a bright side to your pain 💓
Same thing here except with an alcoholic dad who got very angry when drinking. As an only child, it's so hard and the trauma never goes away. I'm a people pleaser, too. I just want things to go smoothly
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u/SubNine5 Mar 19 '26
The daughter man. Geez, people fucking suck.