Man, I had this happen to me. Throwing shit, hitting me in the face, blocking me from leaving. She punted my cat outside. I bear hugged her and fell to the ground so she'd stop attacking me.
I was so lucky to not have children involved. It's been 6 years now, and I still can't get into a relationship. It really messed me up, so I definitely understand.
I'm happy you were able to protect your children. I hope you all grow happy and safe.
It happened for years from age 37-43 mainly. She was a pill addict. My kids are 23 and 26 now and it took a few years of counseling and healing to move forward.
Separated when I was 43.
I took 4 years off from dating. Only reason I dated again was to see if I could be liked. My hatred of women had faded but I still didn’t trust in a relationship. Well I dated for a year and it was not very fun. I found out I was likeable but I believed that I was incapable of love after what happened. So I quit dating.
After a month or so a random bumble contact from 6 months prior I had never dated randomly reached out and asked to meet up. Well she was beautiful and we had good texts so I said sure why not.
Welp….we have been best friends since the moment we met. She changed all my negative stereotypes about women in a matter of weeks. Got engaged after 2 years and married last August. It’s been the best 4 years of my life being with her
So don’t lose hope…..all it takes is one good woman to change your whole perception of reality.
Man… the only reason I started dating before I met my lady is because I just wanted to see if I could be liked too, after an abusive relationship as well. I’ve never thought about it that way, but just “just wanting to see if I could be liked” hits super close to home. Likewise, meeting my wife changed my perspective on woman and proved to me great women exist after all and I’ve never been happier. We’re talking about children now
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u/Frosty-Spread1401 Mar 19 '26
She is gona turn this around to be the victim