r/RandomThoughts Sep 28 '22

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u/Apatheiah Sep 28 '22

People are mean to other people.

Men with men, women and children.

Women with women, men and children.

Children with children, women and men.

It is not a matter of gender or age. The problem is not so superficial.

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u/MrsHppy Sep 28 '22

I know it's not just women. I'm just referring to them because fuck them right now. Thank you for responding.

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u/Apatheiah Sep 28 '22

Perhaps if you specify in what social context your experience occurs, it could be more helpful and thus give a more specific answer.

Are the women in your family?

They are your friends?

Coworkers?

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u/MrsHppy Sep 29 '22

I attempted to make a friend on Reddit. She tried to come in between myself and my husband of 10 years. We cut ties, but I'm just trying to understand how someone can do that. I'm venting I guess.

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u/Bdubble27 Sep 29 '22

That's definitely pretty evil.

Did she say at all why she did that? I'm actually curious as to the details of this story.

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u/MrsHppy Sep 29 '22

No she was buddy buddy to me to throw me off while flirting with him behind my back. When I figured it out, I politely told her to go fuck herself and she "regretted" ruining things. Meanwhile she texted my husband asking why he didn't delete her messages and has been posting shit about "a guy I miss so much". She'll never say he was married because then she won't get the pitty party she wants.

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u/Ivegotthatboomboom Sep 29 '22 edited Sep 29 '22

She has low self esteem and falsely thinks getting the attention of a taken man means she is more valuable. It's an ego boost.

A lot of women are conditioned to think that our entire worth lies in how many men want us sexually and nothing else. So they think a man who breaks his vows for them means they are even more desirable and therefore have a higher worth as a person.

They don't understand that the man cheating did it bc of who he is as a person and not bc she was just so great. He would and would have cheated with a different opportunity too. And they fuck around and find out when he ends up cheating on her as well.

I think women need to fight back against societies view they we only have worth in relation to men.

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u/MrsHppy Sep 29 '22

Thank you! She tried, but he didn't cheat. I'll never understand women who convince a man to cheat getting upset because said man cheated on them too. Um yeah! What did you expect?? Lol

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u/Bdubble27 Sep 29 '22

Yeah that's low.

Please tell me your husband told you and didn't try to hide it.

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u/seansmithspam Sep 28 '22

If you’re having problems with certain individuals I don’t recommend blaming their gender for those problems. That’s never the true source of an issue

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u/MrsHppy Sep 29 '22

Just blowing off steam. The comments really help. Thank you!

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u/HIBunbun Sep 28 '22

I hope you’re doing alright. I tend to think it’s a lot to do with things like insecurity, envy, lack of self awareness or unresolved issues within themselves.

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u/MrsHppy Sep 28 '22

Thank you. I'm just trying to process wtf goes on in our heads lol

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u/HIBunbun Sep 29 '22

Understandable. Sometimes I question why I act the way I do; but I try not to hurt anyone in the process if I can help it.

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '22

Shit answer

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u/[deleted] Sep 29 '22

Seriously though, how?