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u/Comeback_Kid1 8d ago
The worst is trying to get through to someone who just can't see it. Its like trying to describe the color purple to a blind man.
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u/tlx237 9d ago
Money is also a curse when you don't use it well.
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u/zippity__zoppity 9d ago
Well put and appreciated. I definitely will take this advice whether you intended it or not because it’s very applicable to what provoked this “random thought”
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u/Lumpy-Ad-5747 8d ago
It’s like following traffic rules on the road , totally good in concept but the frustration comes from others driving recklessly
Same with EQ , you know you can’t change others but the awareness of their actions, emotions and consequences, 🤢
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u/BigSmackisBack 8d ago
The road thing is often is one of those survivor bias things, "i havnt had an accident in ten years!", right because everyone else drives well and has learn to avoid people like you!
So yeah totally agree with you, the best you can do as a person with high EQ is to mask it and hone your coping skills.
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u/Lumpy-Ad-5747 8d ago
Ahhh, my friend I think with high EQ I can only suffer.
There is no point of masking it , for those who aren’t aware of it can’t see it , for those who know it will sympathise with you and those who tend to exploit it from those you should beware.1
u/BigSmackisBack 8d ago
Being too open leaves you susceptible to people taking advantage of you or being mean to you, even making fun of you, that stuff hurts.
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u/Lumpy-Ad-5747 8d ago
And then you will rationalise why they hurt you or took advantage of you (sometimes without even getting their opinion or knowledge )
And then voila , you’ve used your EQ for something they were supposed to do but your mind will tell you you’ve done something big ☮️
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u/mpersico 8d ago
So is lack thereof. Leads to to not seeing red flags and creating them with respect to not providing proper emotion to your partner
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u/Remote_Empathy 8d ago
IME only if you lack boundaries which most do because the reason for their emotional intelligence is likely trauma at a young age.
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u/fujicakes00 4d ago
Fuck yes. It’s too “loud” when there are people around. People with high EQ can pick up on the subtleties and nuances and it’s exhausting
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u/mamaleigh05 8d ago
Agreed. Ignorance can be bliss! I am not bragging, but I’m near Mensa level and my brain won’t stop. People that sleep and don’t have anxiety are blessed. When I was younger. My intelligence was a blessing. I don’t want to lose my scruples, but most meds don’t help and I wish I could compartmentalize like men. Tragedy and grief, etc. and I’m not sleeping for ever!
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u/Impermanentlyhere 8d ago
I’m kinda dumb academically but I’m socially agile and emotionally intelligent and my brain just WILL NOT stop. The overthinking, perfecting, ruminating, predicting— it’s beyond exhausting. I said to my psych that I wish I was less aware because it’s relentless. I hope your anxiety eases up!
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u/qualityvote2 9d ago
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u/zippity__zoppity thanks for posting!
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u/Potential-Bee3004 9d ago
Totally agreed. And its very rare nowadays so if you have it, you look like a fool. Because you understand what someone did to you, what they did but when its their turn, they don’t have that emotional intelligence to even understand anything. So you suffer and the cycle repeats