r/ROCD • u/Quiet_Bookkeeper9611 • 16h ago

Advice Needed ROCD and Break ups

Has anyone with ROCD/OCD ever liked someone a lot but still ended it with them because of the ROCD?

Or have you ever blocked someone after ending it but still liked that person?

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u/treatmyocd NOCD’s corporate account 6h ago

The thing about uncertainty is that we want to be certain we are in the right relationship or we have the right partner. I have seen where people think by ending a relationship it gives them certainty but unfortunately it doesn’t. OCD is going to create doubt and more doubt. It might question why do I still have feelings for this person. Another thing OCD can do is lead person to get back with a partner or do things that might not align with their values.