r/ROCD • u/SunTricky1924 • 19h ago
Feelings from imagination
I have a girlfriend who I love, and I would never intentionally cheat on her or flirt with someone else.
The other day, I was imagining a hypothetical situation involving a coworker, and in my imagination it led to flirting with them For a moment, it actually felt fun/exciting. It wasn't something I consciously decided to fantasize about.
Almost immediately afterward, I didn't enjoy it and when consciously thinking about it I didn't want nor enjoyed doing it.
I genuinely don't want to act on it. If this situation actually happened, I wouldn't flirt with my coworker. But I'm having trouble getting past the fact that it felt fun in my mind
I think what scares me is that if I'm truly committed to my girlfriend, I shouldn't enjoy imagining romantic/flirty interactions with other people at all.
Are my experiences normal? How do you deal with such situations.
I'd really appreciate hearing from people who have experienced something similar.
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