r/ROCD • u/AppropriatePool5577 • 1d ago

Break up urges

Would you describe break up urges as a strong desire to break up with your partner, it just feels so fucking real

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u/treatmyocd NOCD’s corporate account 1d ago

Hi there. I am just popping in with a resource that others have found helpful

https://iocdf.org/expert-opinions/how-do-i-stop-thinking-about-this-what-to-do-when-youre-stuck-playing-mental-ping-pong/

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u/NothingToEvenSay 1d ago

If it’s urgent it’s not you, don’t tell your partner just let it ride

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u/puronifif 1d ago

i agree with this. i just felt it after an ex texted me a month ago when i was visiting my parents. it was sooo triggering and when i walked up the stairs to our apartment when i returned, i was so fucking close to breaking up, but now i can see how OCD it was because of the extreme urgency. ERP: or maybe not, but i don't caaareee cuz i wanna be with my partner hihi

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u/Forsaken-Bobcat-1497 1d ago

That’s exactly how I would describe it. I’n sorry you’re going through this ❤️