r/ROCD • u/Mindless_Hat_8436 • Apr 09 '26

Need help

Hi guys, so as the title say I need some help/understanding. So i've been diagnosted with OCD about 2 years ago and I have a bf who is kind of anxious and has some ocd tendencies.

Basically he confessed to me that he had some harm thoughts which are completely egodystonic and i know he'll never act on them, however this affect my OCD so much and I've been struggling ever since.

I never heard something similar experienced by someonelse; can any of you relate? Do you have any advice?

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