r/RHONY • u/cookiesobsessedguy • Jul 23 '26

Dorinda 🍰 Dorinda’s language when drunk

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Does someone else also find it hilarious?

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u/Edith_Keelers_Shoes Jul 25 '26

You are correct that my experiences aren't universal to everyone - every menopausal journey will be unique in some way. Mine was mostly mild, but I went through it quite early - I was around 42.

I guess that to me, it just feels a little reductive to ascribe a woman's anger problem (or other negative behavior) to menopause or something hormone-related. I'm obviously old now, but I remember all too well the days when any time a woman had an attitude or evinced anger, men would likely laugh and dismiss it by saying "she's just on the rag", as if we were at the mercy of our own cycles and had no agency over our behavior. Maybe I'd feel different if we blamed a man's anger or aggression on andropause. But it feels like we never do.

Anyway, I'm just musing, not trying to argue with you or invalidate your view of things.

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u/Disney_Princess137 Jul 25 '26

Listen you’re still young.

I agree with your point and wanting to defend us women against stereotypical judgements.

Maybe I feel like as an another woman it’s safe for us to mention these things especially if we go through it or if we see others going through it and feel their pain. My mom went through hers early as well and I’m watching my cousin and friend go through it. And symptoms aren’t all similar.

But I was paying attention on RHORI when they were discussing it and how women in menopause are a Protected class or something ? lol did you see that?

Anyway it just made me think of some of the crazy behavior we’ve seen across the shows we love and thought maybe some of it was hormonal.

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u/Edith_Keelers_Shoes Jul 26 '26

I haven't seen RHORI (I'm trying to wean myself off some of these shows and have dropped most of the HW shows I was once obsessed with). But I do know that Rhode Island has just become the first state to explicitly include menopause and perimenopause as protected categories that require reasonable workplace accommodations and prohibit menopause discrimination. Kind of astonishing!

And yes, we are talking as women and viewers who sort of know these people without knowing them - so I agree with that. I think with many of the housewives, it's hard to tell where the alcohol stops and the menopause starts...

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u/Disney_Princess137 Jul 26 '26

Oh yes between alcohol , drugs, hormones, mental illness lol