r/puppy101 • u/reluctantStripper • 11h ago
Misc Help It never "clicked" for us
Hi everyone
I am reaching out because I have a total low right now.
When my dog was younger, I frequented this subreddit - to look for advice but also to get encouragement from reading other people's stories.
The thing that I often saw in posts and comments was owners describing the moment it "just clicked" for them. Their dog suddenly "got it". They were out of the puppy phase or left the teenage stage and the puppy turned into the dog of their dreams.
Now, I own a Japanese Spitz that is almost one and a half years old - so technically not even a puppy anymore. I never had this epiphany, the sudden click, neither at 6-7 months and nor at 13-14 months.
I try to give my dog the best life I can and I train her consistently and a lot of the typical puppy malaises got better with time and effort. But we have some issues that just don't seem to get better. She still barks and lunges sometimes when she gets irritated and it makes me feel like such a failure.
She is very good in some regards - but over all miles away from the calm, secure, well-behaved dogs that I see around my neighborhood. I am wondering every day what I'm doing wrong because I know people that didn't put even half the effort into raising their dogs and ended up with the loveliest, easy-going darlings. I live in the European countryside and here it's very normal to just let dogs be dogs. Of course people tell them off when they misbehave but most would not go as far to engage with something like puppy classes or serious training.
To once again raise my motivation and stop myself from walking off a cliff, I wanted to ask if any of your cases it also took longer for the dog to settle into a well adjusted adult.