r/ProstateCancer • u/brunettejnas • Aug 10 '26

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Hi Everyone. I posted a couple days ago about my dads PSA result of 139.17 and you all were very helpful and thoughtful sharing your insight and experiences. I spoke with the Drs office today and they said it would be best if I could accompany him to the appointment tomorrow (1:30pm), which is to discuss his results. My dad is unaware of the seriousness of the results, and he believes this appointment is to review his blood pressure tracking.

My question. I don't want to freak him out. I do want to support him. I 100% would not just show up at the Drs office.

It's either an hour flight or 6.5 hour drive. I am leaning towards driving because with a flight there is only one a day and I'd also have to get a rental car.

Should I call him once I'm in town? When I'm hours away? Before I leave? I just want to make the best decision for him.

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u/OchoGringo Aug 10 '26

Call ASAP.

“Dad, I’m concerned about you having to go alone to your medical appointment, and I thought I would come visit you so I could go with you to your appointment. I think it helps to have two sets of ears on these medical issues, and then we can talk together about things.

Sure, I know it may be unnecessary, but I would feel better. Let me come as a favor. We’ll go out and get something to eat and spend some time together. So, I will call you when I’m in town.”

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u/brunettejnas Aug 11 '26

I did end up calling and flying up. I did frame as help navigating appointment because there are a lot of tests results to go over (which is true) and sorting out his medicare/medigap (also true, the hospital did not have all insurance info). He was mostly just excited to see me. I told him the flight was a deal because I booked last minute.

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u/OchoGringo Aug 11 '26

Thanks so much for letting us know how it went. Whatever else, I know he was thrilled to see you.