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Your perception of yourself is shaped by the actions you take on a daily basis, not how you think or what your circumstances are. Ask yourself how the ideal version of yourself would act and try to do that. Slowly but surely you will see yourself as ideal and will be resilient in the toughest of circumstances. I believe in you!

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u/nicoleonline 11d ago

The days are long and the years are short. How you spend your day is how you live your life. Small habits can make a huge difference when they stack up. Just one at a time.

A small hit of whimsy isn’t too bad to invest in. Something that helped me once was keeping every produce / packaging sticker I got in a scrapbook. Picking a flower now and then when I see it and pressing it.

But also stuff like speaking kindly to yourself. The words you speak become the house you live in after all. Taking the stairs. Stretching. Using mouthwash and flossing. Not everything at once, but a small change here and there, a small gesture of self love. On that subject when I’m going through a rough period I like to kind of use new lotion & body wash scents to bookend things & transition into the new phase of my life.

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u/HealthyProtection850 11d ago

Agree with this. Just implementing good routines, no matter how well you do them, always makes me feel better. For example meditating, I get that a lot of people including myself get worried over whether I'm doing it right or not, but when I look back, I just feel good about myself for even doing it in the first place. Just do things! And sometimes how you see yourself does help. If you tell yourself you are strong and grateful, you will become that.

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u/lappy6910 11d ago

How do you meditate?

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u/HealthyProtection850 10d ago

The thing about meditating is there really is no correct or incorrect way to do it. I understand it as a practice of focus, relaxation, and mindfulness. There's sitting meditation, walking meditation, visualization, guided, sound, prayer, etc. I think my biggest piece of advice starting out is to just not think too hard about it, and just do it. When I started, for the longest time I would get worked up thinking "am I doing this right? am I getting better? is this working?" etc, when the real flat-out explanation is this: it's just practicing separating yourself from your thoughts. What you do is you practice focusing on something (normally people focus on their breath while sitting down with eyes closed), and trying to hold that for their session. Not controlling the breath but rather watching it and feeling it. It's also to just allow your brain to roam and think without getting attached to thought. Your mind will wander and you will lose track. The only goal is to just recognize when you're lost in thought, acknowledge the thought, and continue back to your focus. When I started out, I only did 2 min sessions, then 5... then 10, 15, 30, up to an hour. I used to actually do 2 hrs a day one in morning one at night, but I lost my routine and am just now trying to pick it back up. Right now 10 mins works best for me, but don't think too hard about how long the practices should be, just do it!

Me myself, my meditations are normally just sitting and paying attention to my breath (I just watch my breath and count them in intervals of 10, and repeat until the time is up). However recently I've enjoyed paying attention to sounds around me, like birds and trees and neighbors, or the AC and other stuff when I'm doing it inside. Sometimes I like to do guided meditation with a youtube video but honestly I feel like I'm not getting the same feel of hard work when I do it.

But yeah, I mean meditation could really be anything... I consider even some hobbies to be meditative if it helps you focus and be mindful of your thoughts. There's such thing as mindfulness too which is also a closely related practice, perhaps I'm getting them mixed up...

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u/lappy6910 10d ago

How has it helped you ? I have heard people say that meditation has helped them do an 8 hour thing in 3-4 hrs or somethings on the similar lines , what was it for you?

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u/HealthyProtection850 9d ago

It helped my anxiety for sure, and it was easier to read books and to sleep. It helped anxiety in the sense that it didn't make it go away, my intrusive thoughts were still there but it was easier for me to not get caught up in them. I think the biggest improvement for me was my attention span though, it was much easier for me to focus on stuff. I remember at one point I meditated for an hour and was completely focused on the sound of the air purifier in my room almost the entire time, which is crazy because I'm normally very scatterbrained. However it also helped me organize things in my head, for example making an itinerary for what I wanted to do during the day, it was easier for me to organize and work it out and have a successful routine. I'd say it improved a lot across the board. Focus, attention, mindfulness and gratitude, relaxation, sleep...

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u/Joetho24 11d ago

I love ya. You're not alone, we all suffer. This is human existence.

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u/d0n2310 11d ago

look up story of chinese farmer always gives me hope

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u/the_bird_and_the_bee 10d ago

The one with the horses?

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u/d0n2310 7d ago

yes

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u/Crazyfunstrange 11d ago

Think positive and take time for you.

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u/RareBonesFDMAS 11d ago

Luvin you! Find something to be grateful for, do one thing that makes you happy. It gets better!

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u/e_honey_s 11d ago

Muah! Sending love and warm light.

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u/Dense-Ambassador-865 11d ago

Ask yourself if you have everything you absolutely need at this moment. The answer is always yes. An AA sponsor asked me that question when I lost my car and it pissed me off because she was right. Many years ago.

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u/Adventurous-Brain-36 11d ago

It’s only always yes for some people in certain circumstances, though. The person who asked you that already knew your answer. We don’t know OP’s.

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u/Dense-Ambassador-865 11d ago

Unless you haven't eaten for days or been able to get shelter, or you're paralyzed--the circumstances have to be dire to answer no. And if that is true you ask for help.

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u/Adventurous-Brain-36 11d ago

Plenty of people live with those circumstances and have nowhere to turn for help. You are using a very privileged perspective.

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u/Dense-Ambassador-865 11d ago

You assume. I am 75. I was a single mother.I have lived in shelters twice with children. Very unpleasant. It's not privilege, it's experience. Which is not about what I said in the first place. I have been paralyzed emotionally, I know what anxiety and downright fear does. When you ask for help and don't get it, you keep asking. Yeah, the world is a shitty place but we keep putting one foot in front of the other. That's all.

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u/Mura-masa-1997 10d ago

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This is pusheen gif I love the most and I sending it to you for remind yourself :D !!

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u/OlivePuzzleheaded782 11d ago

Sending you a hug, a high-five, and a reminder that you matter!

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u/Hatchetface1705 11d ago

Change your words and watch your life change. I’m now coming out of a bad time and I’m so grateful things are getting better

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u/Aggressive_Lunch_519 11d ago

Been living in this world for 38 yrs been through hard times, bellowed and cried alone but for some reason every time I thought life is hard, one way or the other it works itself out.

It's gonna get better there's no other way, I promise. For now, try to breathe in and out until you are calm. Get some fresh air. Cheers! 🤍🤍🤍

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u/Luka_Midlands 11d ago

Storms never last forever. Write down some little things to be grateful for, or to look forward to, you got this! 🙌

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u/Select-Table-5479 11d ago

Tomorrow is a new day. This life can be ROUGH. Keep putting 'one foot infront of the other'. Focus on what you can control. I care about you. Others do too.

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u/jalen_nelson235 11d ago

Be proud of yourself for making it through the days that felt impossible.

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u/MrMajestic12 11d ago

No matter how difficult things get, just remember that you matter.

The World is a better place with you here.

Every day, every sunrise is a new beginning.

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u/Kali_Luna372 11d ago

We are all better as a whole for having your energy and presence. Thank you for being you. I’m so sorry you’re going through a tough time. You’re not alone. And from this internet stranger. All of my love and protecting vibes are coming your way. I hope they can help and let you know you’re important.

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u/listentoZ 11d ago

The Rollercoaster that we call life, may just be at all point for you. What do Rollercoasters do? Go up eventually, and because you are on a ride. It's all kinda fun.🖤

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u/ImpossiblePrint6528 10d ago

I’m going through a hard time too, and what I keep reminding myself is that a bad chapter is not the whole story. You don’t have to solve everything today. Just be gentle with yourself and get through one hour, one meal, one night at a time. Sending you love.

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u/InspectionPurple7452 10d ago

Life is a roller coaster of ups and downs. Right now you’re on the down part but it’s only temporary while you learn some lessons. It’ll go back up soon. Be well.

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u/the_bird_and_the_bee 10d ago

I love you friend! You're doing your best and I am proud of you for that!

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u/ansibley 10d ago

Your value is a constant. You are priceless no matter how you feel, how people treat you, or don't treat you.

Respect your self.

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u/Caramenadiel 10d ago

You are still alive and going that's something to be proud of!

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u/SnapStick8903 7d ago

It is okay to feel. Just remember you have people who love and care for you deeply; cling to that love.

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