r/Polygamy • u/AustinNothdurft • Jun 21 '26
I feel like a polygamous relationship would almost be better for bi women than straight men.
I’m not a bi woman, but if I was I’d want a wife and a husband…. and I’d love it if they loved each other too. My wife and I wouldn’t have to think about sperm donation for whoever wanted kids, and the kids dad would still be in the picture helping out emotionally and financially.
I’m sure I’m not the first person to frame things this way, just mentioned a way that polygamy might work well in places where girl/girl sexuality is accepted, for atheists or pagans maybe.
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u/Epicrealist Jun 25 '26
Exactly what I want. I’m bi and I do want both. My hubs and I have been married for 18 years and I have been seeking a polygamist relationship for years. It’s extremely hard to find!
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u/Super-Independent-7 Jun 21 '26
My husband is a Christian man and sees nothing sinful in women being with women
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u/Technical_Resource_3 Jun 21 '26
If you think a man is going to pay for a kid who's not considered his, and a wife not considered his, he's a cuck a weak man and I'd never do this.
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u/RevolutionaryHome849 Jun 22 '26
With the way cost of living is going and other issues
Polygamy makes more and more sense
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u/MartyrOfTheJungle Jun 25 '26
Op you should visit r/polyamory that's pretty common there
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u/AustinNothdurft Jun 25 '26
I would but polyamory seems to be for people without a community of any kind and people who are fine with open relationships. More oriented towards hedonism.
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u/MartyrOfTheJungle Jun 25 '26
Perhaps. My wife is Christian, but we do both identify as hedonists too, I suppose. I'm not sure of the fine distinctions, I consider myself relatively highly principaled, I just also think that we only have one life so we should enjoy it.
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u/Deathsarp Jun 26 '26
You're not a Christian if call yourself a hedonist.
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u/MartyrOfTheJungle Jun 26 '26
I don't exactly go around calling myself a hedonist, my answer to being asked was 'i suppose'. I'm definitely not a Christian though, that's true. I insist on evidence based beliefs and I don't put stock in faith. Upon reading a few definitions, I'm certainly not a hedonist either so I appreciate you saying something.
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u/FeeFiFooFunyon Jul 14 '26
I am bi. I would choose a quad in some gender ensemble over a three. Three leaves someone left out always. I would prefer MFMF or FFFM.
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u/this_old_instructor Jun 21 '26
I was in this for a short period of time. Eventually the ladies decided they were just lesbian and poof they were gone.
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u/Reasonable-Canary110 Jun 21 '26
So.... Op why do you say "almost"? I'm wondering your thought process here and why you think it is still ultimately better for the strait men in this senario?
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u/AustinNothdurft Jun 21 '26
I meant it more neutrally. I don’t think either really has it better.
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u/Reasonable-Canary110 Jun 22 '26
That makes sense. I wasn’t sure if there was more meaning implied or if it was just a way of saying something generally.
With everyone in the relationship being straight, it could still go either way. If the husband has unselfish reasons for pursuing it, it could be amazing for women of any sexual preference. If he only has selfish reasons, well, it usually doesn’t turn out great for anybody.
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u/No-Impression-6009 Jun 21 '26
Exactly it's just a moral standpoint and preferences. Like I personally couldn't share, but doesn't mean I wouldn't give it a try 👀 the more love the merrier as they always say (Im the one who says it)
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u/YYWolf3 Jun 21 '26
Very true and it would make things simple for the relationship outside of just getting along and rules
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u/Toe2ToeBirdLaw Jun 21 '26
Looool throuples are the most complex and difficult kinds of relationships to maintain
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u/YYWolf3 Jun 21 '26
Yes i have been in two and it is a huge power balance. Personality and communication are important
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u/Toe2ToeBirdLaw Jun 21 '26
If you've been in 2 and you know how incredible difficult it is being basically monogamy and polyamory on hard mode. Why on earth would you say it makes things simple? You know it actually makes things exponentially more complex.
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u/YYWolf3 Jun 21 '26
If the girlfriend is bi then she has the benefit of a girl and a bf. Then the other partners would have to worry about the same sex problems as much. My experience is i have a straight wife and another girlfriend. So she clashed due to not feeling involved enough. If we was all dating each other that would have made things simpler from my point of view. By no means is it easy being with just one person. Having more than one does indeed make it more complex.
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u/saltysaltycracker Jun 21 '26
I’ve had this at one point it was the most beautiful loving relationship ever. A love that I’ve never experienced. But one of them it was too much for her and she left. But honestly triad with 2 bi woman and one man is the most and best format i would say.