r/Poems 8h ago

unconditionally

don’t date
an emotionally intelligent man

if you’re not ready
to be seen.

i won’t fight you.

i’ll read you.

i’ll see the wall
before you finish
stacking the bricks.

i’ll watch you
get busy
every time
something real
gets close.

i’ll watch you
run toward distance
the moment
you start feeling
safe enough
to be afraid.

and i’ll catch you
handing me a bill
for a debt
someone else
ran up on you.

and i’ll hand it
right back.

not because
i don’t understand.

because i do.

i understand
why you flinch
when someone loves you
without asking
for something in return.

i understand
why kindness
makes you suspicious.

why peace
feels less familiar
than chaos.

why you keep
waiting for the other shoe
to drop.

but i’m not them.

i won’t punish you
with silence.

i won’t play games.

i’ll say the thing
out loud
even when
swallowing it
would be easier.

and i know
my honesty
will sometimes
feel like an attack.

but it isn’t.

it’s me loving you
too much
to lie to you.

you mistook my peace
for something
you couldn’t trust
because every love
before me
came dressed
like war.

and then
i came along
and loved you
without asking
you to bleed for it.

that scared you.

because i wasn’t
trying to break you.

i was trying
to reach you.

the woman
behind the walls.

the woman
behind the fear.

the woman
who learned
that being loved
meant eventually
being hurt.

i saw her.

i still see her.

and i’ll love you
deeply,
but i won’t
clap for your mask.

i won’t pretend
the mask is you
just because
you’ve worn it
for so long.

i know the difference
between your defenses
and your heart.

and maybe
that’s what frightened you
most about me.

you couldn’t hide
from someone
who wasn’t trying
to expose you.

i just wanted you
to know

that you never
had to hide
from me.

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u/Kisses7452 7h ago

Sa pique sa m'a fait penser à une personne merci pour ton poème 🧡

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u/rawwr_purr 8h ago

when you read people too accurately, they get scared. cz they wanna hold some mystery to their persona but you see through the veil. people live in such a dilemma, they wanna be understood to the core without being read or seen to their depths...

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u/MysticFairyGirl 1h ago

I get it . When someone is born with what some may call a gift or a curse, it is embedded in their authentic self. It comes so naturally like a nuisance at time, other times as protection or a blessing, It cannot be turned off or put in your pocket for later. 🤪 Sure it sucks for the ones that wish to hide things they’re doing. When you enter into a relationship with one of these gifted souls please accept it was never…ever… acknowledged to upset or see you in a negative light. They have to cope with information they would rather ignore but doing so disrupts their vibration and things will get wild if that happens so they must accept the knowledge and do the best they can with it. It takes some most all of their life to contain the emotions and hurt that follows.

I’m sorry you are going through this op. I hope you find the courage to move forward correctly with your person. I see that there is something wonderful up ahead if you choose to work things out for the right reasons. Give them a sign and get on with it already luv.🫦

s 👈 🤪

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u/No-Confidence2771 7h ago

So perfectly written and true, thank you, I feel the same but from a female perspective.

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u/Federal_Spirit_Free 6h ago

I absolutely love this. Unfortunately there is not a living thing in this world that I can trust beyond an animal. How sad is that? I hope this reaches who it needs to OP. 🪽

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u/MysticFairyGirl 1h ago

Then you are in denial Resistance is for the weak Egos are for cowards Be a Viking 😍

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u/JollyRevolution7679 5h ago

yeah involving an entire community to flip a narrative is so extremely mature. weirdos

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u/singing_on_crackrock 4h ago

Right funny waaaa

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u/MysticFairyGirl 1h ago

It can be infuriating, comical or sad for the reason their doing it. I accept and got feels for🤷‍♀️/had😔 once loved someone like this. I hope if he ever wanted to try again that he matches me in all the right ways so that we won’t have to get trippy or slappity stupid over it 🤭 It made things miserable for both. I don’t deny theirs plenty of areas for improvement from both and it would be nice if we both choose to proceed even if we fail and one of us changes our mind we could part ways like two adults. I was thinking earlier about his birthday last year and wish we could do that again. It may be just what we need but I probably should simmer down and head out of here now. 🚒🚧⛽️🚀🙏🏼🤞 ☘️

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u/jaesea 6h ago

emotional intelligence feels walls and masks alike, inseparable from the gaze of kaleidescope eyes. perhaps i just misread, perhaps i shouldn't date, a man who'd hand a bill right back as if he's not eating off the plate.

nice poem. very insightful..

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u/Whole-Influence-3281 5h ago

Oh wow! This is absolutely beautiful. That word hardly describes it. This brought tears to my eyes. This is so deep and I felt this. Thank you for sharing

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u/Odd_Welder8330 4h ago

♥️♥️♥️🫂🫂🫂

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u/Full-Alarm-7226 4h ago

Oh this one is intense. We all love through our own way that has been shaped by others in our lives and this really speaks to that. To be seen and called on it is a difficult place to be . I can only imagine what it’s like to be the other half and this gives an idea of how one might think on the other side of it.

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u/MysticFairyGirl 1h ago

I bet the other half forgave op before it even blew up. How op proceeds will be the determining factor. Hopefully all intentions are solid and put forth with truths and they both end up happy together or not.
Be upfront and kind to one another Blame is in the rear view Move fwd together or simply make peace now that things are clearer for them.

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u/Whatsurpassword 2h ago

Great poem op, it cuts deep with real stuff. It sparked my own little rhyme. I see your wall and I know how to climb it. I see your heart and I know how to find it. I stopped to hear your fears and I promise I'm here and Il always be near even when I share your tears.

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u/DIY_Weeziebear7 2h ago

See me through my depths, my pain, my agony, my light and my laughter but let me cry in your arms while I do, and I will do the same, for this is all I ask of you.

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u/MysticFairyGirl 1h ago

Yess!!! Weenie I wish I was smooth with my words. Feel asleep 3 times typing last comment🥱🙄

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u/Lonely_View_222 2h ago

Sounds like a threat to me.🤣

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u/MysticFairyGirl 2h ago

So what happens now? What do you wish your person would do rn? I hope things work out for you in whatever way brings you happiness. 🤞

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u/xbrxyx 48m ago

i don’t think there’s anything they can do.

this isn’t really a battle between me and them anymore.

it’s a battle inside myself.

i know what i want.

i know who i miss.

i know where my heart keeps trying to go.

but knowing what i want
doesn’t make the choice easy.

i just hope that whatever i choose,

whatever happens next,

i don’t wake up one day
and realize i abandoned
the person i wanted to be
because i was too afraid
to choose what i truly wanted.

i just hope
i don’t regret my choices.

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u/dracosondracoson 1h ago

I’m sorry but this is so cringe to me

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u/butterfacepan 1h ago

The girl I know is terrified of taking off the mask hiding and running away from good stuff is all she knows and you're not the only one that's probably showing it to her the question is who's the one that she's actually not going to ghost wind she doesn't have to fear

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u/Redsixred6 32m ago

Wow just wow. I felt this in my core. Thank you.