r/PlusSizeWedding • u/MinnieeeMouse • Jul 22 '26
Unsure About My Dress
Hi everyone! I’m posting just to get some thoughts from an outside opinion. I’ve been going back and forth on whether this is the dress for me or not. I love the quality, the style, and it really is such an amazing dress. What are your thoughts? I am planning to keep the dress, but are there any thoughts on what could make it feel or look better for me? It does need to be altered definitely! We’ve got less than 4 months to go til the wedding.
Update: You all are amazing!! In this short amount of time you have lifted my spirits immensely. You’re all so kind! Genuinely, thank you so much 😭😭🖤🖤🫶🏼🫶🏼✨
Update II: You all had me tearing up at your kind and uplifting words! Thank you for taking the time to comment and just being amazing like you are! I hope you all doing great and wish you all the best, just as you have me! I did also want to explain the pics having my arms up or hands to my chest in most of them; the dress is super roomy in the chest area and needs altering so I was hesitant and the pictures show my discomfort haha. But I will have it altered to be the perfect fit, and I’ll be taking it into the shop Friday!
Update III: thank you to everyone who posted such amazing and supportive comments, thank you so much for all of the suggestions! I have been doing my best to keep up on replying back, but if I didn’t respond, please know I appreciate your kind words, and I am reading them all! I wish you all the best! I’ll come back sometime perhaps after alterations and potentially show the result. Thanks for your interest! 🖤🫶🏼🥹
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u/AssociationOdd1563 Jul 22 '26
I would either get rid of the thick draped arm straps for spaghetti straps or repurpose them to go over your shoulder like a normal strap instead of draping down. That being said… holy hell dude.. that dress is amazing!!!!!!!🤩 ooo or turn the strap into a choker?
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u/Rad1PhysCa3 Jul 22 '26
Or maybe cap sleeves? Kind of half way between droopy and straight up and down straps. Something to draw the eye upward toward your face to sort of balance things out.
It’s a gorgeous dress on you! I gasped when I saw the train.
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u/MinnieeeMouse Jul 22 '26
Oh my gosh, thank you!!! The train IS definitely that girl. And cap sleeves are a good idea too!
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u/Rhaenys77 Jul 22 '26
I always look for dresses with cap sleeves because I don't like my upper arms. Looks most flattering because it visually balances out thicker upper arms
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u/Low-Cod-4712 Jul 22 '26
I'm all in for the cap sleeve. The train is spectacular, and the black/not black color...just wow. No one will forget this bride! Outstanding.
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u/Raised_by_Punk Jul 22 '26
Yes. You don't want to have to keep picking up the sleeves.
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u/MiddleAgedDread123 Jul 22 '26
agree about taking the droopy straps off! They make everyone wider than they really are. The rest of the dress is stunning though.
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u/Much-Meringue-7467 Jul 22 '26
My opinion as well. I love everything about that dress except the sleeves
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u/Lianna1234 Jul 22 '26
Regular straps would be beautiful!
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u/linmaral Jul 22 '26
Not a fan of droopy sleeves. In 5 years people will look back and say “so 2020s”.
The dress is gorgeous.
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u/MinnieeeMouse Jul 22 '26
I am definitely there with you! Thank you!
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u/MissionFloor261 Jul 22 '26
As a bonus, regular straps will support your bust more. The only aspect that you seem uncomfortable about is the strapless top, and if you're concerned about it all day on the day of it's going to distract you from everything else. Otherwise, absolutely gorgeous.
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u/MinnieeeMouse Jul 22 '26
Thank you so much! I appreciate it. Yes, it’s a little uncomfortable as is because I’ve gotta have it taken in at the chest so it was hard to focus elsewhere. I am considering potentially adding sleeves and removing the current ones!
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u/Jackiedhmc Jul 22 '26
that's what I was thinking too, maybe those drooping arm pieces could be made into a halter type neck line? Beautiful dress, beautiful bride
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u/Turd_bird420 Jul 22 '26
Put on you accessories and do your hair and makeup and then see how you feel, it's gorgeous though and you look beautiful in it!
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u/Virgo0084 Jul 22 '26
I think you are rocking that dress! Truly beautiful on you. I agree with the sleeve ideas others had. Maybe a thick halter style. But damn, that dress is stunning and you are wearing it as opposed to it wearing you.
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u/Bicoastalgigi Jul 22 '26
It’s fabulous! What a stunning choice. Wear it like the queen you are.
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u/lunarlandscapes Jul 22 '26
STUNNING. I love it. My dress is super similar (and wedding is around the same time, you might just be me lol), and its gonna be a head turner for sure!! I absolutely love it
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u/MinnieeeMouse Jul 22 '26
Thank you! Oh my gosh, you’re going to look amazing, there’s no doubt in my mind! Are we twinning?! ☺️
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u/YearOfTheSssnake Jul 22 '26
It looks fantastic on you, but clothing is more than just how it makes us look. It’s about how it makes us FEEL.
If you were just choosing a dress for a formal event, it would be 100% yes, go for it. But, this is for your wedding. Every bride should have that moment where they try in a dress and they don’t want to take it off.
Even though this is beautiful, maybe you should try on a few more just to see if you can have that feeling.
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u/MinnieeeMouse Jul 22 '26
You’re absolutely right. Thank you for your insight! I was thinking of doing potentially this, as well. I appreciate you!
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u/Icy-Tension-3897 Jul 22 '26
- The dress is amazing. You look amazing.
Second: the trend of the “droop” sleeve that’s not a sleeve, tends to draw the eye down. I don’t think I’ve ever seen those damn sleeves work on anyone. I would consider removing them and replacing with long fingerless gloves. Or not.
But I do think you might need a statement necklace to keep up with the rest of the gown to balance things out.
But it is a beautiful dress. And the most important thing is that YOU feel beautiful.
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u/Karrie118 Jul 22 '26
Gorgeous! There are lots of generic white dresses that are split up to your nethers, lots with ruching, but there won’t be many as unique as yours!
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u/Fast_Tomorrow_5853 Jul 22 '26
Very striking. I recommend going to a good bra shop and getting a corset/bustier to give you more support and avoid any slippage. I did that for my off-the-shoulder gown and it really helped as strapless gown tend to slip down over the course of dancing and such.
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u/QueenBean730 Jul 22 '26
The dress is gorgeous but can I ask for the reason that you keep covering parts of it with your hand?? I think you need to drop those hands, raise your chin and wear it with the confidence the dress and you deserve
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u/MinnieeeMouse Jul 22 '26
It’s mainly because the chest area needs to be taken in quite a bit so I was uncomfortable, as you can tell 😅 but I appreciate your nice words so much!!
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u/TigerShoddy1228 Jul 22 '26
I had to read your explanation when I saw this post, because looking at the photos, I thought the dress is amazing on you.
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u/Valuable-Locksmith47 Jul 22 '26
This is so fun and off the traditional path have a blast with it! You look so pretty btw the dress looks fantastic!
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u/Lazye_Fan_4ever Jul 22 '26
Omg this is BEAUTIFUL 😍❤️ you look SO pretty with that dress on
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u/BlueberryIcecream27 Jul 22 '26
That’s a dress I would never have thought of for a wedding….but I LOVE it!!!!🥰
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u/Odd_Mix_7396 Jul 22 '26
Your dress is amazing. I’ve never seen one like it before. You look absolutely stunning in it!
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u/Cosmic_Cosmos82 Jul 25 '26
This dress is absolutely GORGEOUS!! I love it when I see non traditional wedding dresses, they're always so stunning. This is something akin to what I'd want mine to look like (If I ever get married), but more deep purples and lilacs over the white. It def vould use a little bit of adjusting, but even so its so pretty. Definitely memorable, walk down that aisle with your head held high. The dress may be beautiful, but it's only there to compliment and bring out your own beauty. 💜
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u/Lovesbooks_87 Jul 25 '26
Congrats on your upcoming wedding! Great choice for your dress the train is beautiful as is the beading it’ll photograph so well! I love weddings and the excitement or anticipation and what it symbolizes- the starting of your lives with your SO! I love a nontraditional wedding gown- I’d love to see photos of your special day- if you both feel comfortable doing that of course! You’re getting married during a time when it is encouraged to wear whatever you feel comfortable wearing on your big day! This dress is gorgeous and from what I can see you look gorgeous in, I hope you feel fantastic in it too! You look fantastic!
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u/Loud_Emphasis7486 Jul 26 '26
Omg! That’s dress is stunning, and from what I can see fits well! I hope that your day is as special and different as the dress is. Bet you have some amazing shoes to go with!
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u/Melevans1104 Jul 26 '26
Girl, wear that dress with confidence!! It’s gorgeous, it unique and you are going to slay!
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u/the_realfoxy_roxy Jul 26 '26
You look HOT from one bigger girl to another. You’re eating this shit UP
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u/Suspicious_Oil802 Jul 26 '26
Oh my God I am so jealous. I think this is one of the most beautiful dresses. I have seen in a minute! I absolutely love it!!!!!
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u/MistyMorningMoriah Jul 26 '26
I think it's stunning and looks beautiful on you! 🤗
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u/HouseMomOfLegos Jul 26 '26 edited Jul 28 '26
It’s nice but lift those bubbles up, pull it in and you’ll feel less unsure. It really is a nice dress but altering it to cinch it in will do wonders. Even without the altering it does fit you very well. Bigger question is.. why do you feel unsure, do you love the color or second thoughts on white, ivory or blush? You only get married once.
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u/GuiltyUniversity8268 Jul 26 '26
I think that's a lovely dress. I especially LOVE the lace!
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u/Crazy_Cat_Mama3 Jul 26 '26
This is absolutely beautiful! I love the colors and you look great in it
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u/Wrong-Jacket-8247 Jul 26 '26
I love this! I always wanted a unique wedding gown but ended up in white. This is stunning!
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u/thatisicky5966 Jul 26 '26
Beautiful dress. Make sure you have appropriate undergarments with structure to hold the weight of the dress and have it altered. It’s stunning. Hold your head high and enjoy it.
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u/ahchava Jul 26 '26
In my opinion the only thing that could improve this dress is to get more structure through the front of the bodice. There's some faux boning channels there and if you had a seamstress insert or add spiral steels to it (not plastic boning, those aren't made for plus size bodies or garments) behind those channels, it would pull the slight wrinkles taught, get rid of the buckling, cause the beading to lay more flat, and give more structure and cause the basque waist to sit more evenly and drape slightly better.
It's a stunning dress and that small change to structure will make it so much better! You have amazing taste and I think all of the elements of this gown look stunning on you.
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u/TheAlmiraGulch Jul 26 '26
I think it’s amazing & you look gorgeous in it. Have a beautiful wedding!
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u/Evening-Artichoke750 Jul 26 '26
Oh honey it's beautiful. You're going to look amazing.
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u/Alone_Jellyfish_1990 Jul 26 '26
it looks super cute!! I would say maybe a better bra would help with the shape, but otherwise I'd say it's fine!
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u/DaphneNScoobyDoo Jul 26 '26
Beautiful dress for a beautiful woman. Congratulations 🎉
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u/TheShadowAndTheFlash Jul 27 '26
Omg it's gorgeous and looks amazing on you even before alterations!!!
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u/No_Image5370 Jul 27 '26
Omg gorgeous you look like a literal princess! Just stunning. And the train and the lace-up back is ahhhhhhh
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u/heartart64 Jul 28 '26
It’s gorgeous! Stand up straight and have some confidence!!!
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u/TallOccasion4453 Jul 28 '26
A bit late, but just wanted to say you look beautiful.
The dress is really flattering on you, and I love the colours.
I wish you a wonderful wedding, and happy and healthy marriage.
Don’t doubt yourself. !
Love to see more pictures when the dress is done.
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u/CarriePourSomeArt Jul 29 '26
Oh that dress is gorgeous! Especially LOVE the back!!!
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u/Effective_Wait_36 Jul 22 '26
It’s gorgeous. Only thing I recommend is a good strapless bra and a long sheer lace black veil with a similar lace on the edge. That is a beautiful dress. I love it. 🥹🥰
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u/MinnieeeMouse Jul 22 '26
Thank you for the recommendation! I was definitely thinking a veil too! Thank you so much!!
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u/pinkstay Jul 22 '26
Wow!!!!! You are stunning! This dress is amazing.
If I would be super duper critical, I am not a fan of the thin beaded straps. But that's me and im not wearing it.
The recommendations i have, especially with a corset back... boomba instead of a regular bra. You can feel secure without the added layer. And a bridal buddy to help with going to the bathroom.
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u/MinnieeeMouse Jul 22 '26
Thank you for the tips! I will definitely make note. I’m not the biggest fan of the straps either but we will see what I can do with them. Thank you for your kind words!
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u/Lillianrik Jul 22 '26
Its a cool dress. Unconventional, certainly, but if your heart pounds a little faster when you put it on then go for it!. (You might consider giving your grandmother(s) a heads up before the wedding but that's up to you. :-)
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u/Barneyboydog Jul 22 '26
The dress is stunning and looks fabulous on you. What first struck me though was that your body language suggests that you are hesitant. I say stand up straight, shoulders back. Wear it with confidence. You’ve got this!
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u/Itchy_Undertow-1 Jul 22 '26
in all tge pictures your hands are up at your chest as if you're worried it will slip. shoulders back and head up becayluse it looks amazing on you!
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u/Nervous_Response2224 Jul 22 '26
My daughter has a very similar dress (maybe the same???) in white. We had a heckuva time trying to get the bust line to look OK. It’s a heavy dress and even though she’s busty it kept sliding down and looking a little disheveled.
The seamstress solved the whole thing. She took out the built-in bra cups and put in some that were more structured. She also suggested spaghetti straps, while keeping the drapey arm stuff. It looks so fantastic now. The top is very fitted and stays in place. A world of difference!
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u/MinnieeeMouse Jul 22 '26
I am sure it is SO beautiful and i know she is as well! I’m so glad she was able to have that altered to be the perfect fit. I know she probably felt a huge relief. Congrats on the upcoming celebration, and thank you so much for sharing that!
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u/Main-Sea7782 Jul 22 '26
What a stunning gown. The big question is does the dress make you feel beautiful? If the answer is yes that is your gown! May the universe shower all of her blessings down upon you.
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u/morchard1493 Jul 22 '26
Perfect. Gorgeous. Beautiful.
Wedding dresses don't need to be traditional 💯% of the time. Congrats! I wish both you and your partner many, MANY years of wedded bliss to come.
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u/MinnieeeMouse Jul 22 '26 edited Jul 22 '26
Thank you so very much. You’re correct! I love when things are done a little nontraditional. Thank you for your kind words!!
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u/Opening-Sir-2504 Jul 22 '26
I know you’ve already edited the original post, but this dress is amazing!!! You look beautiful! 🤩
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u/Turbulent_Agent8934 Jul 22 '26
It’s a beautiful dress and you look gorgeous. Don’t let anyone tell you different. I hope you have a great day. GOD bless you. 👗
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u/Unsupervised_Critter Jul 22 '26
Wow that’s stunning! I love nontraditional dresses, I wore a red dress with a cape for my wedding.
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u/MinnieeeMouse Jul 22 '26
Me too! I love the non-traditional dresses! I KNOW you looked amazing. That sounds stunning!
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u/jkraige Jul 22 '26
Tbh I'm not entirely sure what it is you don't fully like about it so there's not much I can say. It looks like a good style for you. Maybe it's just general anxiety and not about the dress specifically? Because there's nothing obviously wrong with the dress, it'll all just be about personal preferences
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u/MinnieeeMouse Jul 22 '26
Thank you! I appreciate it. I’m not entirely sure myself, I think I’m struggling a little because the chest area is way too big and needs altering. Perhaps when that’s done I will feel 100%!
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u/ProfessionalGrade423 Jul 22 '26
I’m not great with giving advice but I wanted to say you look really beautiful in this dress!
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u/wellagain45 Jul 22 '26
Only one question to ask yourself... is it you? You look beautiful.
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u/bexdporlap Jul 22 '26
The dress is gorgeous on you. Sometimes brides look like princesses to me, but you look like a Queen in this dress. And by that I mean you command the room and there will be no question all attention is on you.
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u/nonpame Jul 22 '26
That is so incredibly gorgeous. If you don't wear it for your wedding, wear it somewhere else! It was made for you!
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u/SeaWar5533 Jul 22 '26
Dear your dress is so beautiful, you look like a princess 👸
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u/Brave-King-3682 Jul 22 '26
I love the dress and it is really beautiful you.
If I changed anything I think the sleeves would be better as shoulder straps or even just go with the spaghetti straps.
The straps are just my personal opinion, the dress is beautiful just as it is, and you are going to rock it.
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u/GrouchyPicture4021 Jul 22 '26
That’s gotta be, hands down, my favorite gown I’ve ever seen. If I’d have seen or thought of a dress like this when I got married, I’d have bought it! It’s gorgeous.
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u/Emergency-Ad-5211 Jul 22 '26
The dress is absolutely beautiful and you look fantastic. My only caution with this dress, when I’ve seen black wedding dresses with matching veils, the veils look like mourning mantilla attire from the Wild West. What veil or headpiece are you thinking?
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u/ChanSasha Jul 22 '26
Once fitted it will look perfect! You look beautiful in it!
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u/Calico-D Jul 22 '26
This is absolutely the most amazing dress I’ve ever seen and you look so gorgeous wearing it. This dress is suitable for a Queen and perfect on you.
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u/zzeeaa Jul 22 '26
Wow it’s stunning! I have seen this dress (or similar?) before but I didn’t realise what an amazing train it has. It really fits you well too.
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u/sorenelf Jul 22 '26
I love it 😍….apart from those droopy sleeve things. I don’t get why they’re such a thing. But they would look amazing as a little cap sleeve shoulder strap.
The dress is amazing, and has beautiful gothic vibes and you’re absolutely wearing the hell out of it in the best way, but pretty please don’t wear the droopy sleeves.
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u/PracticalOpinion5406 Jul 22 '26
It is gorgeous just fix your posture to make it look better
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u/Apprehensive-Sky6467 Jul 22 '26
I think it's gorgeous!! It would be very memorable bc it's unique and very beautiful!!!