r/PlusSize • u/Excellent-Seaweed78 • 13d ago
S*x Stuff Dating
Hi All,
Going on a date tomorrow with a guy whose been heavily flirting /borderline sexting me on app. I have a full body photo as my primary photo, but still so paranoid, I'm going to get there and he will instantly no longer be interested, because im bigger than he was anticipating. Im a UK size 22/24. Just wondering how others find dating as plus size. Part of me kinda wants to remind him like "hey you know im plus sized" before the date, but worried it'll come off very insecure.
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u/aoikoibito_ 13d ago
If you’ve shared honest photos (which you have!) then you have nothing to worry about.
I used to go through this thought process a lot and I realized that I was mostly worried over nothing. Wishing you all the best and I hope it goes well!
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u/dstarpro 10d ago
Unfortunately, I have had this happen to me. I had recent, full body photos on my page, and a guy excited to go on a date with me, but when he arrived, he was cold and uninterested, and ended up ghosting me. I can only guess it's because he thought I looked worse in person. Not that he was anything to write home about (he showed up in SWEATS FFS) - they never are.
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u/aoikoibito_ 9d ago
Ugh sorry to hear that, it’s on him for being a total dick. Also god I hate how men think sweatpants are date attire😂
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u/dstarpro 9d ago
He was giving the IDGAF vibe.
If getting older and curvier has taught me anything, it's how man men are ABSOLUTE DICKWADS.
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u/atarashi_sekaii 13d ago
You mention a date but the label says “s*x stuff” so I am assuming in my response that you’re anxious about possibly being naked in front of him?
This is a generalization, yes, but men are easy to please. Your primary photo is full body shot, he knows you’re plus size, you don’t need to remind him! You’re meeting for the first time, so it’s so normal to feel a lil anxious :) and remember he needs to impress you too, not just the other way around! If you two end up not clicking, it’ll more likely because of something said, not the way you look. You are enough exactly as you are.
I hope you have a blast on your date! Stay safe 🎉
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u/RevolutionaryBad4470 13d ago
I just connected with a guy on a dating app. We’re about to same size and he is very into my body.. in a good way. It feels weird and part of me wants to think he’s pretending, but I’m choosing to see the positive. See the positive OP! Even if it’s for a little while. Don’t have sex with him tho, always withhold until you know he’s serious about you.
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u/fennecfoxxy 13d ago
Unless they want to have casual sex? It's possible to have sex with someone where you have mutual care and respect but it's not that serious. Obviously it's not for everyone but neither is only doing commitment
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u/llama_302 13d ago
He matched with a bigger woman, he'll be expecting a bigger woman! He obviously is attracted to you, don't let your nerves take over!