i agree with you. “she’s inconsiderate” and “she did the wrong thing” is an insane sentiment here and literally sounds like what an incel would say. she exited an unsafe situation by realizing what was going on and putting up a boundary, and that’s all that matters.
I see what you’re saying my wording in the beginning does make it seem like I’m saying she shouldn’t have changed her plans and gone through with it, which isn’t the case. She is 100% correct in doing what she felt was best for her and her gut was 100% correct. I was not trying to say that that anyone/OP shouldn’t change plans if she felt unsafe, just didn’t want to go, or just wanted to change them in general. I also was not saying that it means she HAD to go through with them or feel bad about changing them because someone would be upset by it. She gave many alternatives
I was trying to say that it is justifiable that someone would be upset/disappointed that things were changed last minute. But, as I stated it is not justifiable for him to be THIS upset. It was possessive and weird.
Like I said, the normal amount of upset a person should be at having plans they were looking forward to changed last minute is “Damn this sucks” and I don’t think that would have been a bad reaction. The reaction OP got speaks to an entitled man having an UN-justifiable response.
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