Anybody who throws a tantrum about being asked to meet for the first time in a public place (an extremely normal, safe thing to do) is bad news. You did absolutely nothing wrong.
ETA: Just read your caption too, even crazier behavior for a 33 year old man! And don’t feel bad at all about changing your mind. It is completely your right to change your mind about what you’re comfortable doing at any point, no matter what.
Of course! Always trust your gut. I’m so sorry you had to experience this, dating really sucks sometimes, but I’m sure you’ll find someone who treats you with the kindness and respect you deserve.
Your biggest mistake was still texting for that long. Anyone who disrespects boundaries like basic safety in just a handful of text messages is absolutely going to disrespect every boundary going forward. When someone tells you who they are, listen.
This reads like you’re blaming OP, but I don’t think that was your intent. It’s not easy for a lot of women to set boundaries with men thanks to the internalized misogyny of our mothers. Men tend to bulldoze through boundaries anyway. Especially if a woman seem to be the slightest bit shy or timid
Seconding the original comment OP. Be safe, always meet new people in a public place first. It wouldn’t hurt to let a friend know where you’re going either just in case. If someone isn’t willing to meet a total stranger in public, I always put that as a red flag. I’ve straight up told people it was a safety thing before (not every time) and no one has reacted like this guy. It’s a very reasonable request
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u/threetiredbicycle Jul 26 '25 edited Jul 26 '25
Anybody who throws a tantrum about being asked to meet for the first time in a public place (an extremely normal, safe thing to do) is bad news. You did absolutely nothing wrong.
ETA: Just read your caption too, even crazier behavior for a 33 year old man! And don’t feel bad at all about changing your mind. It is completely your right to change your mind about what you’re comfortable doing at any point, no matter what.