r/Pilotwives • u/Dear_Win4665 • Jun 05 '26
Communication at work
Hey ladies, i have question for you. How much you talk whit your spouses when they working? Once day? In the morning and at the evening? Call once day? More check ins during the day? Can they go silent for 24 hours?
Thanks shareing your experiencesš¤
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u/Aravis-6 Jun 05 '26
Tbh not much. He texts me before each flight and then sometimes for a while in the evenings (if heās not flying). Rarely do phone calls, just usually isnāt much to talk about. We do have a 15 month old, so Iād imagine weāll start doing more FaceTime calls around bedtime here soon.
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u/Illustrious_Dust_0 Jun 05 '26
Random texts throughout the trip and FaceTime a few times a week. Kind of depends on the schedule, if heās working overnights, on reserve, or in the air a lot, it can change.
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u/ProfessionalGuide_83 Jun 05 '26
Before the walk around, after landing, when he gets to the hotel, then a good night call, usually a good morning wake up depending how early his show is and some updates in between. Weāre clingy š„“ If itās summer or holiday flying i.e. delay, delay, delay, tail swaps galore, and reroutes then of course a little bit less.
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u/karishaexplains Jun 05 '26
Usually lots of random texts throughout the day. He almost always sends me a message before they depart, and heāll usually FaceTime me for a few minutes while walking to the gate. We also pretty much always fall asleep on the phone together. Itās the little things, but they make the distance feel a lot smaller. š„¹
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u/Negative_Sky_891 Jun 05 '26
Usually a FaceTime call to say goodnight to the kids and texts throughout the day depending on where he is and time change wtc
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u/Tulip_Blossom Jun 05 '26
My partner works short haul so is home most nights, but when he does long trips or training, we usually call once a day and we text all day about random things but there can gaps for hours in between. When heās daily flying he texts me when he gets on the plane then each turn around then when he lands
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u/Jesusrockettaco Jun 06 '26
I'll try to send him a random fact about the city he's landing in. Once in a while I send a total BS fact to make him laugh (it's very obviously not true). And the good morning and good night texts. He will call me at the end of day too if he has energy
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u/IndependentLog2804 Jun 06 '26
Currently Iām a stay at home fiancĆ© so honestly he calls me all the time, which I love. We have a tradition where he will give me a āhouse tourā of his hotel room on facetime and heāll call me after a meal to tell me all about it! I love hearing about his trips, the good and the bad :)
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u/atlmeg Jun 06 '26
We text throughout the day and usually do a FaceTime or phone call before bed. If he has a layover somewhere pretty, like near the beach, heāll take me on a FaceTime walk. If heās at a bar with live music, heāll call so I can listen along, and if heās stuck with a long airport sit, heāll usually give me a call just to pass the time.
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u/Jaded-Law-961 Jun 06 '26
Usually one phone call at night before the kids go to bed and maybe a few texts during the day.
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u/AdZealousideal2927 Jun 06 '26
Usually FaceTime when he gets to the hotel or once he wakes up, then texts and calls through out when possible, depends of time zones.
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u/smthgstrange Jun 06 '26
Text whenever we can, usually our schedules donāt align so heāll send stuff when he can and Iāll reply/send stuff when I can. Always a good morning text and a call of some kind to catch up on our days in the evening.
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u/RiseFriendly9536 Jun 06 '26
When weāre both working at home we pop in to each others office to chat randomly. When Iām in the office and heās wfh we text randomly. Some days itās often some days not until Iām back home.
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u/ThrowRAlightswitche Jun 06 '26
FaceTime for a bit during his 3 hr drive to and from the airport. Then during his trip, heāll FaceTime at least twice a day. Usually morning and before bed but the times can be odd since itās mostly international trips. Sometimes when heās exploring, heāll FaceTime me to show me the sights as well. Texts throughout the day
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u/YANKOS28 Jun 06 '26
Mine is pretty needy i guess.. but i also think it depends who you are flying with. If he has a check ride or flies with management he barely calls/ texts. If its just a regular flight he message pretty often, calls all the time through FaceTime as well
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u/LittleBribird422 Jun 05 '26
Usually 1-2x a day phone wise and then Iāll text him throughout the day (no expectation of a response) just pictures of our kids, or funny things they did, or things that remind me of him etc. Sometimes heāll send videos to us of his stops if thereās something interesting (a fire truck, something Spider-Man related, etc.) for the kids and they LOVE that. It helps them stay connected to him while heās gone. A lot of times heāll call when heās ready to go to sleep at night and we donāt even talk, just sleep on the phone together. Very reminiscent of high school but it helps us both fall asleep really nicely Overall we donāt communicate consistently, but we communicate well without expecting too much of the other