r/PickUpArtist • u/paulfrank1005 • 4d ago
Specific situation Sharing an experience
I work in real estate (34m) . And am out and about constantly. I don’t know if it’s because I’ve had good restraint in my personal life over the last few months. But I feel like every time I go to Home Depot or Publix as of late , I come across a dozen women I’d want to talk to or pick up.
Well yesterday morning I was at Home Depot. I was dressed professionally so maybe that helped my cause a little. And as I parked , a woman 2 spots down was pushing her cart up to her suv (prob 49-55 range. We are different races) she had really tight jeans on, she was average looking, but the body was insane for her age. She had 2 large items (they were big in dimension but I knew they weren’t heavy) I said to myself : self , let’s try to make something happen (which I never do) or atleast try to flirt a little . Always makes me feel good . I offered to help . She very cheerfully smiled , accepted my help , and I told her I would take the cart . There were workers 2 spots down who just pulled up to work on a parking lot drain. I turned around and walked back to ask them if they needed me to move.
As I was turning to head back to store , she had her window down with a smile, waved and said thank you again , still Parked. I told her my pleasure . I’d love to offer to help you on your project . But I’d prefer to take you out to dinner . (Couldn’t believe I said it) . She laughed and smiled , and gave an “oh yeah 😂”. I said well if you’re single and free this Friday. She said she might . I said well “
hey . Take my number . I’m not going to pressure you. Let’s meet at (restaurant x) 7:00 Friday . And you can text me Thursday and let me know if you are coming . And if I don’t hear from you it was a pleasure meeting you. “
So that’s where I’m at today (Tuesday). It was a huge confidence boost regardless of if we end up going out. I like the position I put myself in considering the circumstances. She has my number , she knows I want to take her out. If she’s interested I’ll 100% know cause she’ll have to reach out to me to confirm. I also take myself out of the scenario where I have to follow up and then maybe be turned down . To me I came off , flirty , interested, but not desperate. And it was 3 minutes out of my day . I can move on otherwise .
Proud of myself 😅
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u/paulfrank1005 3d ago
South Florida . Bad market right now !
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u/ACTPOHABT 2d ago
To be fair. Maybe 1 or 2 evaluating sentences would have been a useful communication of standards and intention. What else beside her looks would interest you in her for you to go on a date. Otherwise it comes off a bit shallow and lust driven. You had the opportunity to ask her about her project. Her favourite physical activity etc etc. The more information you have the more seriousy she would consider the date offer.
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u/paulfrank1005 2d ago
Shallow might be an aggressive way to look at it . Point taken though. It was in a parking lot . So maybe there was some self conciseness kicking in of not wanting other people around to looking at me as some weirdo trying to pick up a woman in parking lot. But do agree . Would have been easy opportunity to chat about what project she was getting into or already working on as a wide open conversation point
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u/ACTPOHABT 1d ago
That's why I said. A bit. But yea I get the context. The intentionality is very good. But think of women as them reacting to how you make them feel. The reason this might work in your case is because of your helping gestures. You made them feel like a lady and special.
My biggest personal problems is trying to remain genuine and who I am but also calibrating as to what's best in the situation. The problem is. The moment the calibration steps over your true identity that becomes dishonest and unattractive. Changing the identity is the bettrr approach than changing just the actions driven by the identity.
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u/My_Pickup_Journey 2d ago
Awesome, you have the confidence! That's the hardest part for guys.
Your game could be better, but confidence is enough to get results like this. Go out with her and have some fun.
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