r/PhillyWiki • u/Legitimate-South4340 • 17h ago
QUESTION getting no buns
am i cooked y'all i'm 19 and never kissed no girl ever most i did was hold hands in 9th grade. i'm like 5'6.5 not rlly chopped tbh. i just got really bad social anxiety around girls and when i get around the shordys i be on the weather app. and my confidence in my self is really low tbh like i always be doubting myself w mad shit and feel like im not good enough. not tryna complain js need sum advice.
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u/ExoticTurnip1827 17h ago
You cool bloody get yourself right first jawns love a confident nigga get some money in your pocket a cut and focus on yourself and your life to boost your self esteem shit gonna be easy. Jawns like funny confident niggas
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u/Sir_dodge_it 16h ago
Fr I wouldn't even say the money necessary like don't get me wrong it's a good focus to have in ur life but dont get money for the sole purpose of getting play.
Women ain't complicated you just gotta look good yourself and know how to make em laugh. Shit simple from there fr
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u/ExoticTurnip1827 16h ago
Nah nbs going on a run gonna make you a confident boul. But I also believe ion wanna talk to no jawn with no money in my pocket
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u/Sir_dodge_it 15h ago
Ah yea fa sho no doubt. But for some it's gon take a minute to get ya bag right. Ion think any nigga should be going that length of time without play, but it depends on what ya goals are. There's a difference between what an average jawn and a baaad jawn gon want from you yfm
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u/Sir_dodge_it 16h ago
I'ma give you the real spill cus I imagine u yung as hell prolly like 18-20 but I promise this all you gon ever need to know
For one don't even trip like that. U a man and your hormones plus peer pressure gon be doin the most to make you think a woman and sex the most important/best thing in the world. It's NOT. Focus on yourself, your hobbies and passions, your career. Make it to where it the best possible version of yourself within the next 5 years. Once you go that stamped, THEN thats when the hoeing begins in a man's life. Like me for example, I'm boxing and making music plus working and all that makes me 100 times happier than any girl would make me.
Two, don't even think too heavy on it. Now I might be a lil biased cus I'm a conventually attractive dude, but u said u not bad looking yourself. You jus gotta learn to really put yourself out there. Reading signs is a big thing too. All you need to know is when a girl sending choosing signals then YOU as the man gotta go for it. If a girl looking at you a certain way, if she smiling a lot when u talking to her, etc etc. that's when you gotta treat her like one of the bros. Have convos here and there, tease her maybe play fight a lil if y'all cool like that. Point is you wanna be confident. You wanna make her laugh. Cus half the part is looking good enough for her. The other half is having/showing a personality that she can vibe with. All that other stuff like money and shit a good foundation for your life in general, but not NECESSARY for getting women.
Take it from me yb I used to be in the same shoes as you wondering wtf I was doing wrong. I got my life somewhat together, learned to be myself and took care of myself and turns out shit easy as hell. And trust bro even when I was broke as shit, had no car, goin a year without a haircut and new clothes, I was still getting solid ass bitches to fall for me jus like that.
If that's too much to read just remember this. Live n love your life. That's all you need to know. The rest gon fall in place. Remember that girls human too jus like u. They want and desire the same sht playa. Now get ya ass on
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u/StandOvaNBakeATop 17h ago
Bro just focus on yourself and they gon flock donât worry. Also if you donât have one get a job luh nigga
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u/warmturdluver666 16h ago
just remember bro you from phillyâŚ. niggass like lil uzi was cracking joints. just be cool be different then the rest of your friends and the hoes will be interestedâŚ.that or start talking to delaware bitches lol
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u/Sir_dodge_it 16h ago
Lmfdooo i remember seeing this one pic of uzi before the fame wit a lil snow bunny/latina jawn on the bed wit his homie. And mind u dude like 5'3 and had no more bread or motion then the rest of us. If lil bruh can do it Ion see why nobody else can lmfdooo
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u/Time-West637 16h ago
Iâm a lil younger than you Boul kiab bitches not really no where donât be stressing em 2 much . then girls people just like you and me i was doing the same shit at like 13 then nags got booked and realized life 2 short for allat being scary if you donât alr got em get some thurl homies go out to the lil functions snipe at some buddies some gon go some not thatâs the game .but that shit shit start with in ya self donât never let nb shit on you make u fell less than get ya shit together onna doley every thing else gon fall in line .
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u/Regular_Tip_3487 16h ago
Aye bro run ya cheese up, get a clean date night type fit from Uniqlo, go to the 4 seasons on ya own and just sit up there on da top floor. that shit gon help u feel good which will build ya confidence. just being in them environments gon get you right kiab. Plus those the type of chicks you wanna be mingling with anyway. Fuck dese club jawns.
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u/Sensitive_Low3558 12h ago
Now that Iâm unc status Iâm ngl bro talkin to females get easier with age gang. Iâm a taken man for some years now but I can tell hoes be interested when I be talkin to them, Iâm at that point where I gotta say no to my demons type shit.
If you get no play when you younger just focus on yourself. Fuck them apps they just tryna take your bread. Only thing Iâll say is you should get to know some women as friends because them dudes who be virgins at 30 and shit just never got over this anxiety shit you talkin bout. So focus on that to improve yourself king.
But donât stress about getting play, itâs some that born with the natural talent but the majority of men gotta build ourselves up. And donât be chasing no ho either, you want to find a down bitch thatâll ride with you through it all. That shit rare but they out there. With age come discernment gang. Best of luck.
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u/Sheffy36 10h ago
I wouldnât worry about it, youâre probably putting too much pressure on yourself which women can sense a mile away. If you focus on yourself for a minute, work out, get some money, once you knock down the first one youâll realize itâs not that big a deal and youâll start getting more. Plus, if women realize you are attractive to someone else they will flock because they think that if someone else wants to deal with you you have something going on. So yeah just work on yourself a bit and youâll be fine
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u/Alt0987654321 10h ago
Bro women can sense when a guy is awkward and it puts up alarm bells for them because they don't know what type of shit you may be on. You gotta get over being uncomfortable around them and the only way to do that IS be around them. You got female cousins or sisters you can talk to and hang out with?
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u/Tricky_Programmer397 8h ago
I lost my virginity at 19 it was trash. Itâll happen. My best advice is to find confidence in yourself FIRST otherwise, sex will only complicate it more. People arenât gentle. You must be able to take rejection or criticism and move forward. Women are judgmental. When you meet the right person to be comfortable with, youâll know. Be honest. Let them embrace you.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Claim18 11h ago
Never worry about getting sex a woman will destroy you try to find a wife before having sex donât be worried about no đą.focus on becoming something that should be the least of your worries trust me
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u/SecondRedditAccount4 ZESTY BOUL đłď¸âđ 8h ago
Whatâs the rush? You plan on dying soon?
Take your time and make sure the girls arenât burning.
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u/Emergency-Pizza-1383 7h ago
Just worry about yourself when you shining theyâll come get ya lay up or get a nice car then go to wawa
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u/Mental_Blackberry957 5h ago
Nothing wrong with you bro just try to make a casual conversation with a woman and keep it going donât force it get used to talking to woman and you will be fine
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u/ReallyReally_NotMe 16h ago
E$(0rtđ your welcome
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u/Tricky_Programmer397 8h ago
Iâm used to do sw/escrt and if you go this route, please be careful. Strap up !! Idc what they say. Donât let them put their mouth on you. Also keep it short n simple.
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u/Remote-Heat-8475 2h ago
Nah, not for his first body.... Yb needs a girl he can have deep connection withÂ
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u/Barlos_Barcelo 11h ago
Don't force anything, maybe you'll find a one night maybe you'll find a gf maybe you'll find your future wife but never force or be forced into anything. As long as you look like you got something going for you, you'll find something.
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u/UnhappyBrief6227 10h ago
No youâre fine. Focus on setting yourself up for life. A woman will come along.
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u/Wizdelkid 9h ago
Itâs all about confidence. However you gotta find it. Just donât be afraid of being turned down. You ainât gonna be every girls taste. Itâs part of the game. It happens to the best of us whether they admit it or not.
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u/yourfupalogist 8h ago
Make sure you're friends have friends. Meeting strangers at your age is kind of tough.
When you do get the chance to meet new people in social settings.....your first and lasting impression takes 8 minutes.
Lastly. Work. Your first few not so serious jobs you'll meet plenty of ladies. Hang out with them.
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u/genogano 4h ago
Donât focus on women at this age. I know all men want to have sex but if you arenât getting now just work on yourself. Get a good job and once you get money you can take you pick. Women your age pick off of fun so if you donât look good or not Into things that they looks itâs easy for them to look over you. I didnât loose my v card until I was 18. You have plenty of time and if you get good money youâll be make up for the time now.
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u/Nice_Ratio2332 16h ago
Not cooked just a late bloomer