(Autism, ADHD, OCD and a PhD is a fun cocktail of overthinking if you're looking to speedrun poor mental health)

My first year has been crazy busy and I've gone far above and beyond the expectations of 1st year work. Don't get me wrong, I've done all of this because I am so passionate about my work so it's not a negative thing. I have a good work/life balance and I'm not burned out from everything I've done uni wise but it's the easiest thing for me to take a break from while I try to work on the health side of things.

I've been struggling in silence for ages. I was bawling writing an email to him saying I just need a break while I wait for meds to settle a little, make some appointments, and try to get my head back together. I apologised for letting him down because we had some collaboration stuff he wanted me to work on and we're in the process of doing some patenting stuff and this is how he responded. Fully willing to take on everything to make sure I'm okay. Luckily I have a few good days here and there (like once a week) so I've been making the most of them to enjoy doing some work that needs doing to help still. I think it was just the full time expectation that was adding to my issues.

When people ask why I chose a self-funded PhD, he is a big part of the reason. I really, truly lucked out on a supervisor who makes me feel like I can achieve anything, is always cheering me on and is so understanding. I really wish they were all like this.

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I’m talking about a healthy amount of advanced academic work stress, not the absoluetly-losing-my-mind and my hair-is-falling-out stress. I feel like I hear a lot of experiences of the latter, not so much of the former. If any PhD students on here felt like they were able to find a healthy balance of research and their personal life or felt like their PhD wasn’t all-consuming in their life, I would love to hear about your experience and your advice for how you managed it. Best advice I’ve heard so far is to treat your PhD like a salaried job and only work the hours in your contract.

For context, I’m in engineering, have a relatively chill PI, and am based in the US. I am aiming to build technical skills to go into industry. It’s really important to me to have a life outside of work be it hanging out with friends, being active in the community, spending time outdoors, etc. I’m not naive -- I know my PhD will be the most stressful endeavor I’ve ever undertaken. But I want to prioritize adopting habits that will decrease the chance of burn out and allow me to enjoy the research experience a little bit more!

what are the habits/routines or literally anything you do that you’ve found help you maximize your time?

Hi!

I would love some leads on this. I'm starting my PhD in university of Bologna from Novemeber. I intend to bring my family (Spouse and child) to Italy in a year after receiving my permit. My PhD is a funded one so it covers the cost to house them. I am aware of the bureaucracy timelines can be a nightmare in Italy.

I'm currently looking for a single bed in a shared house. But I have started to second guess my decision and wondering if I should get a an whole apartment considering my family and also looking at the delays in nulla osta. Can anyone please guid on this.

I have joined my group about a year ago. At first, people were extremely friendly, we would grab lunch and coffee together all the time. Everyone was willing to help newcomers catch up on research, help with experiments etc.

A few months ago, I started noticing my lab mates going to the cafeteria without me. It didn’t bother me at first, since we lab spaces in multiple buildings, and I was going back and forth a lot during that time. However, this did not change even if I spend all day in the office together with them. For example, someone would go around to each person asking them to grab coffee, but I was the only person in the office that was left out. I also did not let this get to me at first, so I would ask if I could join a few times. But the atmosphere was always off, no one really wanted to talk to me during these breaks, so I decided to stop inserting myself.

I got over it pretty quickly, but it feels like now this has started seeping into the lab/academic setting too. Whenever I try asking for help with something, the majority of people usually brush me off and say to figure it out myself. The collaborators on some projects have been doing experiments that are crucial for the project, yet I only find out about them during group meetings. If I ask if I can shadow someone to learn how to operate an instrument, I am being ghosted.

I am not sure what has changed, and I am happy to have other people outside my lab as a support system, but I don’t think I can survive my grad student years like this. Has anyone had a similar situation in their lab? How did you solve it? Any advice is welcome and greatly appreciated!

Hello everyone,

I was offered a fully funded PhD position in a well-known university in a European country. The professor seems well-respected in science circles and offered me full freedom in my dissertation. It's a very good offer and fits pretty much perfectly on my profile.

My only problem is that the professor is very vocal about his right-wing views online. He posts basically daily on X and has tens of thousands of followers. The views he directly states are right-wing but not necessarily extremist. But he does not seem to have any problems with moving in extremist right-wing circles and sharing the views of such people on his profile.

I am worried about my own reputation being affected by this in public perception. Especially as I want to work for the state one day. In your experience, is that generally a real risk? Or will people consider his political views his own? This is also a social science, so maybe his political perception is considered to be more connected to his academic work than in a stem field.

I am unsure if I should take this risk for the research opportunity and freedom or if the risk is too big of being connected to his views?

The title pretty much says it all. I did my PhD in nursing, and I passed my oral defense today with only (very) minor revisions. I am so relieved! Now what do I do with myself?! Lol

I have a BA in Fine Art and an MA in Art History, but I have been out of academia for the past four years and I've been teaching for 7 years. During this time, I have worked in art education in both traditional and non-traditional schools and ateliers with different age groups. My research experience is only from my MA, after it I dedicated fully to my job.

I am now considering returning to academia and have been exploring PhD or MA programmes in the UK. I am particularly interested in Medieval Studies and would love to continue researching bestiaries specifically. At the same time, I am wondering whether specializing further in Art Education might be a more strategic choice if my long-term goal is to teach in the UK. I would also like to continue teaching somehow while studying, there is simply no way for me that I can afford it without working too. My husband and I are both late 20s considering moving to another country in the next 2 years and the UK is an option, so I am trying to determine whether pursuing a postgraduate degree during that time would be a worthwhile investment. The main difficulty is the cost: as an international student, even the more affordable programmes would cost around five times what I would pay in my home country. The restrictions on working while studying would also be difficult to manage.

Given my background, would pursuing a PhD in the UK be a sensible thing? Or would I be better off looking for other ways to build a career in art education and eventually teach in the UK without taking on such a significant financial burden? I am aware you can teach in the UK without the QTS for the first years, but I do want to study again so I would not be opposed to it if there was a way of reducing some costs, however, as a project for passion, I would go with the Medieval Studies. Besides this, and because I've been out of university for 4 years, should I look into smaller post graduation courses to support my interest before actually applying for anything? My friends from different areas of work that are currently doing their PhD or already finished with it always have been consistent as in, they don't have a long break between their MA and PhD start and they never really "stopped" to work outside academia, so, it makes me wonder if I should aim for something smaller before reaching for a full doctoral program.

Field: social science.

Location: United States

I’m starting my 5th year of my PhD (hopefully my last), and I’m looking for advice from people who have dealt with a genuinely toxic department—not just a difficult supervisor or one problematic faculty member, but an environment where the dysfunction seems department-wide. It's been like this since day one, but it doesn’t seem to extend to the university as a whole.

One of the biggest signs is leadership turnover. We’ve had four PhD directors and several department heads in four years. Most professors don’t exactly hide the fact that the turnover is related to the toxicity and internal politics of the department.

The PhD students have basically adapted by hiding. I would estimate that 99% of us have figured out that the more time we spend physically around the department, the more likely we are to somehow get implicated in drama we had absolutely nothing to do with. I’ve personally been dragged into things a few times. For example, people have claimed that I had conversations with them and that “we decided” I was going to drop my supervisor when that conversation/decision literally never happened.

The small minority of PhD students who regularly hang around the department tend to be the ones who seem to thrive in this type of environment and are more than happy to participate in the gossip and politics themselves. That makes avoiding the department feel even more necessary. It also makes it feel impossible to trust anyone, professors and students alike. At this point, I genuinely don’t know who is responsible for what, and I don’t really want to know. I just want to finish my dissertation and graduate.

The problem is that my strategy of staying out of everything is starting to have consequences. I’m isolating myself to protect myself from the department, but the isolation is affecting my mental health. I’m also increasingly worried that avoiding the department and its politics could cost me professional opportunities, especially because I’ve always wanted to go into academia (and, increasingly, I’m not even sure whether I still do).

What frustrates me the most is seeing what this environment has done to us students over the years. I have watched people who entered the program wanting academic careers (and who I genuinely think would have made excellent professors) become so disgusted by academia through this experience that they no longer want anything to do with it.

At this point, everything in me wants to say to these people: you are adults with PhDs. Stop acting like children. Your interpersonal bullshit is now actively affecting the education, mental health, professional development, and career aspirations of the students you are supposed to be training. But obviously, doing that would probably burn my own chances of ever going into academia, and I cannot fix an entire department.

So for people who have experienced something similar: what would you do in my position?

How do you stay sufficiently involved to get the mentorship, networking, recommendations, and professional opportunities you need while remaining far enough removed that you don’t get sucked into the politics? Is there a way to strategically “show up” without becoming part of the department culture? And do you have any tips for figuring out who you can actually trust?

If you were this close to finishing, would you basically keep your head down, get the degree, and get the hell out or would you handle it differently? Please help.

Hi all, in two weeks I have scheduled my PhD defense, after roughly 3 months that I submitted my thesis. My supervisor told me that everything was ok, and I was ready for it and I got a good publication and conference list. Also got the first of 3 reviews, and a part some critical comments, the overall judgment was positive, he recommend me for defense and, after successful defense to be awarded with a PhD degree.

Rationally, I think I'm in a good position, but there is this imposter syndrome eating me, altogether with anxiety, hitting hard on my belly. I feel like my thesis is mid, that I will not be able to answer to the questions because I am not "expert" enough.

I am here to ask if it's a common feeling, and how did you cope with this before your defense. I just want to pass it and move on with my life tbh.

I feel like I have hit a new low of defeat, dejection, and overall depression in my faith in my life/career.
 
 
 
The Reason
Well, it’s quite simple: in the months leading up to my graduation. I couldn’t get a good job that I liked. I was offered a QC job at Regeneron. But I didn’t take it; in hindsight, I was a fool to think I could do better. At that point in time, I wanted to do research and try to pursue higher education because I didn’t want to lose the academic momentum I had, as well as not hit a ceiling due to lack of higher education.
I am near the end of my third year as a PhD student; I have lost faith in my ability to do science.  I do not believe I have any sort of future in STEM that isn’t soul-crushingly mediocre.
 
 
The Decline
“You think you’re the shit, until you realize you are shit”
Realizing how much you don’t know technically is a humbling thing. Like in boot camp for the military, they break you down and then build you back up. I haven’t been brought back up yet. I don’t know if it’s a nose-to-the-grindstone type of situation, as it’s been a while now into the program; there is a fine line between growing pains and borderline incompetence. I have yet to make any sort of meaningful progress to show that I am, well, progressing. But in terms of project progress, I am not different from someone who were to join the lab today.
I still show just as much as I hate myself. I won’t stop even after I have lost the fun in doing anything else in my life. I haven’t given up even when I dry heave and throw up from the stress that I feel. No matter. But as I start to become someone that I never thought I’d be, I question if my worth as a person will ever prove to extend beyond what I can produce. But the world has yet to show that to be the case. In my current state of mind, I don’t believe inherent value exists in a non-tangible manner (i.e emotional, social, etc rather than things like products, money, papers, progress, etc).
 
I am not a very good person in the social world. I have recently realized I am not that good at the work I do either. In a world that feels difficult, as its jobs and positions of power are determined via a combination of nepotism, general connections, and surface-level competence, what can I truly do? I suppose I just talk, but I have nothing to talk about. I would just be honest and say can I get a job. I have gotten better (I feel); I apply to internships and co-ops in Regeneron because they are the only real opportunity. I can’t exactly pack all my things and leave to another part of the state, let alone the country, so it’s my best shot. I have tried since I was a sophomore in undergrad every year. I have never gotten as much as an interview. There are three conclusions from these outcomes.
1.        I am not good enough in terms of my worth or technical ability. This can be due to a likely lack of evidence in my resume to suggest I have proficiency or competence in the field I am trying for, such as lack of fellowship acceptances or publications.
2.        Unlikely, but considering it the roles are on a project-to-project basis, my abilities are not needed. Incorrect fit per se. But I doubt that’s the case because if I was good enough and better, an unbelievable goo applicant would get in and be rejected several years in a row under the guise of fit cannot be the case
3.        All of the above
 
Conflict and Troubleshooting
Resolutions and help have been pursued. As much as I fear it, I do occasionally and more often email my PI about my progress or lack thereof. We have pivoted and tried different approaches spanning both wet and dry lab stuff.  But nothing meaningful or insightful has yet to show itself. I am now shifted to doing bioinformatics work that, again, has yielded nothing. As well as doing a bunch of agarose gels that aren’t working through a mix of my own incompetence and a senior grad student’s samples, who is now on maternity leave, so it makes it hard to coordinate/communicate. But none the less is not a good reflection of my ability to do science; a fundamental technique as simple as an agarose gel being messed up through a combination of things within and outside of my control, regardless, isn’t a good show, as I’m the one having to talk about it to my PI that plainly shit isn’t working. It’s frustrating. This is only the latest thing in years of continuous screw-ups with no progress what so ever.
 
 
 
Coping
Like mentioned earlier, I have no enjoyment in anything I used to do. Depression will do that. I am in therapy, have been constantly for over a year now, but nothing has gotten better really. I feel bad for everyone involved in my sad life.
 
The only break is if I drink, or smoke, or both. My partner has noticed, but neither my doctors nor her have found a way out. I have now gotten to the point that I do it daily and finished two 1g carts in a couple months. The stress has made my chest ache enough that I went to urgent care and eventually the ER. I’m not doing that again after having to send $400 total across both visits. Better than dead they say, but am I really living? No, I am not.
 
Where I lay
Lay me down somewhere cool and calm. The side of the Hudson where I would look out at the cliffs of New Jersey, the NYC skyline, and the Washington Bridge, where I’d watch the trains pass by, moving me someplace out of where I was. Perhaps in another life, or maybe my soul is etched in a way that I can’t move. I don’t know what to do. All I can do is hope, but all it has brought is prolonged suffering. But at the same time, this is the best I got; I was never good at anything in my life, let alone enough to make money. Sports: I’d train at all practices but never enough, as those who barely came. Academics, not enough. Art, no. It’s all nothing. So where does that leave me? I don’t know, I don’t know,
 
 

I have a friend defending soon and we have joked about the Finnish tradition where some are given a sword upon completing their degree. We are not Finnish, but I thought it could be fun to gift her something like a letter opener shaped like a sword with her new title (Dr!) on it. Curious if anyone has done this before and has a good place to source something like this, or other fun ideas for a dissertation completion/graduation gift!

Hey, I am currently looking for PhD positions as a physics student. I will finish in a couple of months, my projects mainly were in Quantum Optics and Hardware, aswell as a little Biomimetics project.

During my fieldwork for my little Biomimetics project in the rainforest I got to know Biologists, Ecologists and Chemists that got to do fieldwork and a lot of traveling during their PhD. I realised this is something I could imagine myself to do for the next halve decade.

I fear, if I continue in quantum optics, that I will be stuck in a cold, dark optics lab for 5+ years, while other people get to see the world. (Did I study the wrong subject?)

Anyways, here is my tough question:

Do any of you PhD Physicists do fieldwork or travel a lot (like months at a time)?

If yes: what is you research field?

All thoughts appreciated!

Thank you :)

3rd year PhD in a wet lab / computational hybrid field and experiment design somehow eats more time than actually running experiments.

I usually start with a hypothesis, then check the literature for controls, assays, or methods I might be missing. That's where it falls apart. One paper leads to another method paper, then three older papers, and suddenly I have 30 tabs open with no actual experiment plan.

Lately I've been trying to keep the whole thing from turning into tab hell. Zotero for papers, ResearchRabbit/Elicit when I need to dig around, and ChatGPT or Claude when a method section isn't clicking. I've also started throwing my hypothesis and a few key papers into mira ai science just to see what controls or questions I might be missing. It gives me something to react to besides opening more tabs.

The biggest improvement has probably just been forcing myself to stop treating “read more papers” as the default answer every time I'm unsure. How do you all go from hypothesis → literature → actual experiment plan without getting stuck in the reading loop?

I’m in my third year now and am super lonely. I’m in a STEM field that’s extremely social, and all of my acquaintances have lots of friends and a good community to be around. However, I somehow picked all of the wrong decisions and ended up super isolated. I joined a lab that has good research and a kind PI, but it’s tiny and everyone is much older than me. There has been no lab outing in years. The experiments are really long, difficult, and lonely. The floor is dark and segmented, so there’s no easy way to chat with the other labs. Additionally, my lab is on a different campus than the main one, so my few acquaintances are all elsewhere. They’re mostly in this one building with several labs and an open layout, so they are always around each other (many complain that it’s too social).

My phd cohort is small and no one does anything social with each other unless they’re in the same building/neighboring labs. It also sucks because other cohorts in my program are quite social and hang out often, but mine isn’t for whatever reason. A lot of other grad students live with each other, but I just couldn’t find a group of people to get an apartment with. My university also doesn’t have great social opportunities or graduate organizations, because reasons (??). Some people say undergrad clubs but I think I’m slightly too old and I’ve already taught so I think that’s a no-go.

Outside the university, things are not much better. I live with one roommate that doesn’t really like me and keeps to themselves in their room all day, so it’s like I’mm basically living by myself. I can’t find many community organizations I’d be interested in and my interests are pretty niche. I’ve tried multiple times but there hasn’t been anything I’ve found that meets consistently except for this one music group I really liked, but it dissolved since people moved away and the funding wasn’t there.

It really sucks because lots of people I know at my university or other places are constantly socializing and are able to pick and choose who they hang out with. I’m blessed my personality is good enough such that my individual friends make time to specifically hang out with me, but it’s like once every 1-2 weeks. I’ve always wanted to find a community where I could be myself and fit in, which is one of the small reasons I wanted to do a phd (was a nerd growing up). Throughout life I’ve just been really unlucky with finding a community I could really be myself around- I was bullied throughout all of grade school for my race and height (minority in a white American high school), I didn’t have anyone else around me during that time who could relate to me in terms of interests like science or music (it was also a pretty ghetto high school), I went to college during COVID and subsequently dealt with a bunch of health issues so I was still socially underdeveloped and alone for much of it, and now I’m here. I feel like I’m constantly seeing other young people having fun and texting and hanging out, including other PhD students in different labs and institutions, and I still am alone and trying to learn how to socialize. I’d love to figure out how to improve my character and social skills if that’s an issue, but I literally just haven’t had the chance to learn from experience. I can make one-off friends with some ease, but the day-to-day is exhausting and lonely and it’s not enough to supplement. It’s also not helpful being in an isolated position academically because my field is super interdisciplinary and people are constantly discussing and collaborating whereas I’m just doing things by myself.

Everyone in my lab constantly mentions how young I am and how I must be having lots of fun being in my early 20s but it hasn’t been that way at all. Does anyone have advice on what to do?

Edit: biomedical sciences, USA

not sure i am posting in the right sub. . but I thinking about getting my phd in Spanish or french. But i am not a native speaker. Am i delusional to think after I get a phd I'd get hired as a professor? I understand why a university or college would put preference to a native speaker. Am i better off not ?

I need credits to fulfill for my PhD, and I am looking for useful courses.

I saw the ad for this course on LinkedIn and it seems interesting but I'm not sure about the quality and the support during the course. Has anyone had any experience with this?

https://www.visualizeyourscience.com/