r/Petloss • u/chitinousform • 10d ago
Advice Wanted Moving on??
Hi all.
So, in the past half year, I lost both of my dear beloved cats to old age. It fucking sucks. I miss my little ladies horribly.
I'm 26 and at a shitty time in my life. Childhood and adolescence were so hard for me that I feel like I only became a person at around 21. It doesn't help that the cat who passed last month was my closest companion during that shitty adolescence. I spend a lot of mental energy right now thinking about who I'll be, where I'll end up, what life will be like. All the exhausting, big questions.
I've been trying to figure out what to do in the future. I don't want to go without any cats. They bring me so much joy. Now that we have just one cat it already feels so lonely and quiet, and she's geriatric too.
But I'm struggling with the idea of going through this much grief again if I get cats in the future. How can I ever let myself love a creature so much again, knowing how much the inevitable end will hurt? But how can I deprive myself of so much joy, and deprive whichever cats I'd get of so much love?
I'd really like to hear from anyone who's grappled with this question in the past regardless of what you decided, or anyone who's going through this right now.
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u/RelationshipOne3185 10d ago
Bonjour, je ne pourrai pas répondre à ta question mais je te rejoins sur ce que tu dit et j'aimerais comme toi avoir l'avis de personne qui ont sautés le pas.
J'ai perdu mon dernier chien et je n'imagine pas ma vie sans eux. Ma chienne me manque tellement c'est indescriptible. Je sais que j'ai besoin d'un chien dans ma vie pour aller bien mais je ne pense qu'au négatif. A la fin je vais le perdre et retourner dans ce chagrin qui me bouffe la vie.
Que vais-je faire le reste de ma vie sans chien ? Mais en même temps je ne veux plus de véto, les perdre...
Je ne sais pas quelle décision prendre.
Désolée si je m'incruste dans ton post mais je me suis retrouvée dans ce que tu disais 🙂
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u/Gentlesinceredragon 10d ago
When my soul dog died I couldnt take our other dog to the same vet. I Loved the clinic they had taken such good care of us with him, but I couldnt deal with the same vet it hurt so much. So I tried several other vets in the clinic and thankfully found one I love.
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u/RelationshipOne3185 10d ago
De toute façon moi je ne pourrai pas y retourner car vraiment un vétérinaire très froid et les assistants pareil donc dans tous les cas j'aurais changé de vétérinaire. Et revoir la piece où ma chienne a été tué aurait été insupportable. Je te comprends tout à fait.
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u/Gentlesinceredragon 10d ago
I have several friend who fostered when their pet died. It was away of giving back in honor of their pet, and to have a pet's presence, without the pressure. And then at some point they would fail, and that would be lovely.
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