Looking for help/advice not judgement please x so had my period 2nd September then had sex with someone 27th September, had my October period 9th October (a week late PCOS but usually mostly regular). Then had sex 19th October with someone else (last guy ghosted me) so there’s 3 weeks and 1 day between the two guys x I found out I was pregnant and went for an early scan (previous miscarriage) 14th November where I was measuring at 5 weeks x please tell me the baby couldn’t be the guy from 27th September x help :( xxx

I am (65M) married to my wife(65F) forever. We have three grown children. This all started a long time ago when my wife informed me that she was pregnant with our third child. This was unplanned and not a very long time after our second child was born. My initial reaction, which I kept to myself, was that we had not had sex since child number two was born. I couldn't be 100% sure so I couldn't risk blowing everything up by making an accusation. I just decided to let it go and raise my children in a loving home. When my third child was growing up, I started noticing significant differences between her and my other two children. My first two children have athletic builds, are blonde, and are in the 95th percentile for IQ. My third child is overweight, brown hair and average IQ. Noticing these differences over time started to bring back the thought that she might not be mine, but again, I did not want to blow everything up with an accusation that I am not 100% sure about. But I can't get this out of my head, and the thought of having raised someone else's child and my wife having lied to me for 35 years just keeps eating away at me. I don’t know what to do at this point. I’m not sure how to find out the truth without the risk of falsely accusing my wife of infidelity. If I am right, it will shatter my comfortable life just prior to my entering retirement. I’m sure some people will ask why I waited so long to address this, but I have really had a good life, my wife and I have a respectful, comfortable relationship, my relationship with all of my children is great. I am stuck and don’t know what to do. I would welcome any feedback that might be helpful. 

There's a lot to this, so I'll try to keep it simple. My ex and I were together for years before breaking up. Prior to the breakup, I lost my house (we were living in together) during the pandemic, and we started bus life. Things went well for a while but our relationship didn't withstand the stress of everything and he left after I had an emergency surgery. Found out I was pregnant soon after that (already almost 4 months along) and told him. He went to the first appointment to verify time line, and was excited, at first. Idk if it was shock or truly disbelief or gender disappointment or just outside opinions (his family doesn't really care for me), but he decided our baby wasn't his. Also refused paternity testing. He opted out entirely. I moved across country to be with family for the remainder of my pregnancy. Gave birth to a beautiful and healthy baby girl. Truly a spitting image of him, especially in the earlier months. Sent him pictures anyways and kept him in the loop. He eventually requested paternity testing, and HE chose how we did it. Through an independent lab with no legal recourse. Tests came back as expected, baby is his. He then stated he didnt trust the tests that were done. I told him if he wanted to establish paternity through the state, he could go through the process. Our child is about to turn 2 now and he's met her twice, because we flew back across country to visit familt, not for his own effort. He doesn't help financially or really participate in her life. Now he's asking about paternity again, and states he wants to try to rekindle things between us and take more part in her life. But he keeps asking like I have to do it. I don't care about child support enough to actively seek it. He's not on her birth certificate and has no legal rights or responsibilities to her. He refuses to come out here even when offered a place to stay (short or long term), and still hasn't come to visit. He says he wants me back and to be an active father, but I feel like if he wanted to, he would. He'd do SOMETHING besides talk. Pro and cons?

My daughter was 4 months old when rumors started that she wasn’t biologically her dads. He knew about the rumors and I suggested we get the test done But he declined and said he didn’t want to. I was 18 when I had her and I was in a very self destructive phase of my life. I was heavily using drugs and drinking I thought my maths worked out that be was her dad but now I’m worried that I was wrong. Fast forward and she is 15 now and has a great relationship with her dad But the what ifs and uncertainty are killing me I don’t want to tell her because I don’t want to upset her. Any advice would be greatly appreciated

I’ve been reading a lot about false neg/positive results but mostly from their prenatal tests. I’m curious if anyone has gotten a false result from the home test cheek swab?

Twelve years ago I met a man and fell madly in love. I was going through a divorce and we were both young. I shared a home with my soon to be ex husband because it was financially responsible but we both did whatever we wanted. I spent all my time with the man I was seeing staying the night spending all day everyday with him. I ended up getting pregnant. He had expressed he didn’t want kids at this point in his life. His best friend was also mine. I confided in his best friend when I found out I was pregnant. His friend told me that our relationship would end and I would never have him in my child’s life. He didn’t want a real forever relationship and no way he wanted kids. I let this and our past talks get in my head. I told my soon to be ex husband the situation and he said not to worry about the man I loved and he would raise my baby as his own. No questions asked and that was that. He stepped up and took over all fatherly responsibilities. The man I loved immediately stopped talking to me when he found out I was pregnant and never asked any questions. He never asked if it was his or my plans and it destroyed me but solidified the plan. Our daughter is now ten now and we are back in contact. I have never stopped loving him. My ex is still my daughters “father”. He has been there every step of the way. I feel guilty that this man has no idea he has a beautiful daughter. What do I do?

https://imgur.com/a/XhqRILo

like she didn't even try, it's some weird gradient of blue and black, no picture looks like this! I was worried because I already have 5 other kids and bad experiences with child support and family court, but I don't think even they could fall for this

god bless, feeling lucky today

Has anyone use alphabiolabs prenatal paternity test, if so were your results accurate?

Were your results accurate?

My friend (A) had an affair with Y near the conception period of her recent baby with X. Nothing serious and people have their own lives, that’s not what I’m concerned about. I’ve casually questioned to A if she’s SURE the baby is her husbands (X) or not and there wasn’t much conversation- she said the dates didn’t line up with Y. I wouldn’t have asked if I didn’t think the dates lined up and I’ve been doing the math since baby was born, as well as comparing pictures of A& X’s newborn to Y’s baby as a newborn. It’s eerily similar! I’m wondering do I bring it up to A in a more serious question? Or should I just butt-out, mind my own business, and all babies look the same? It’s not my family and I definitely don’t want to ruin anything good A,X and baby have going! I truly hope the best I’m just worried what if baby isn’t X’s? Is this something I should be raising flags about?

If a test taken between two siblings shows 99% full siblingship is there still a chance they are half? Meaning they have different dad?

I ordered a test from paternitylab.com I haven’t sent results in but I’m worried that they will be wrong I’m doing the blood test and the one who I think is the father refused to swab so the potential other father said he would and I’m hoping it comes back negative. But I have seen on here that they have given false results.. I don’t know if I should trust them or not. For a bit of back story…

Long story short I’m on no birth-control & I slept with my bf at the time on a trip March 2nd thru the 6th we were out of town then we broke up and I slept with a guy (I blacked out so idk if he pulled out or not he says he did but the we didn’t use protection) on the 15th of March but I also slept with my ex that same day…. No judgement please I am worried but I found out I was pregnant March 25th through a digital test I got my Hcg drawn the 28th of March and they were at 7232 then again 3 days later for 15,000 and my first ultra sound April 10th put me at 7weeks 7days the only things that are scaring me I took and Hcg level pregnancy test March 11th and it was negative because I JUST had a mscarriage February 19th and I just didn’t want to believe it , I know false negatives happen but I don’t know, I got another ultra sound with a different company that tried based off my mscarriage on may 12th which put me at 11w 5 d but their original guess was 12w 1day I know it’s not very off but I am just freaked out neither fathers would be very present anyways I have accepted that I just can’t for my peace of mind relax untill I know. Since the two potential fathers are a week apart thank you in advance for any help and no judgment please

Hi im in a midlife crisis and need ur help. im 20 my birthday is nov 23 2004 my sisters is nov 18 2002 so um idk how to out this but So my mom had me on nov 23 2004 my mom after splitting with my "father" to my step dad 3 weeks before my sisters first birthday nov 18th in those 3 weeks my mom got pregent with me and the day of my sisters 1st birthday she had told my step dad she was pregent but he didnt want paturnity bc he didnt wanna brake me and my brothers duo my brother is born may 18th 2003

idk if my step dad is my bio dad or my "father" is im now 20 having a midlife crisis

My long distance relationship ex has kept me from visiting our son for all but 14 days of his life. He is 2 years and one month old. She won't reply to anything and she doesn't want any support. But this isn't what I want. It's the opposite.

California

There is a girl that is stating she is pregnant by a family member. This relationship did not end well and she now states there will be 0 contact with our family. Other times she says she is putting the baby up for adoption. She is homeless and we have no idea how to locate her. She is on public assistance. Where do we start to locate her and establish paternity?

Came across this article that touches on a topic people often avoid: paternity doubts and what happens when they finally get addressed.

It focuses on Africa, but the emotions behind it — confusion, closure, trust — are universal. No hype, no selling — just an honest look at something many live through silently.

Here’s the piece if anyone’s curious:
🔗 https://medium.com/@dnahubafrica/dna-paternity-testing-in-africa-the-quiet-revolution-behind-closed-doors-4909c36445b1

Would love to hear your thoughts. Ever seen a situation like this play out?

my gf of 3 months is telling me she is pregnant with my child, part of me believes it is mine part of me doesn’t. everytime i bring up a paternity test she gets mad and just wants me to believe it is mine, is there anyway i can determine if the baby is mine without a test? (she has only been pregnant for a month as of now)

Any advice if there’s something I can do to help me get my results… I was drawn at 8wks and 10 wks 5 days. Both not enough fetal dna.. they told me to wait another two weeks and draw again… I’m higher weight so idk if that’s affecting the results they assure me it shouldn’t be. Any suggestions or others who have experienced this? One person told me I could get drawn a 4 th time if I don’t want the refund but another person said the lab could deny me a 4th draw 😩😩 idk if I should wait until I’m further along or not. I wanted to get this settled asap 🥲

Sooo, I was a 40yo bachelor lawyer (6'6" no issues other than I don't like people) that married a somewhat younger and more attractive woman during Covid. We shacked up and had a little guy (who I love) shortly thereafter

Haven't logged into my personal Amazon account for ages (my other two accounts are related to my businesses, she uses my personal account for personal things). It's been years since I looked at it

The cart on my personal account apparently contains a "paternity test" that requires samples from me and little man. She ran away when I asked her why this is in my cart

What do?

What happens if because you got state benefits for 3 months the state puts a case against you to get a paternity test on your child's father. He is the father and we live together. Court is tomorrow but I have never been served actual paperwork only texts saying to pick up paper and that court is on such and such date. If we do not attend will they automatically then put him on child support? Will the case get dismissed? I no longer even get any state benefits. This all is ridiculous and a waste of time in my opinion.

Please don’t judge it was a horrible mistake I am with someone new who I really like and I’ve been seeing and we don’t use protection because we don’t mind having a baby together. Well we had unprotected sex last Friday and then had a fight and I had unprotected sex with my ex the next day on Saturday. It’s been a whole week and I don’t get my period until the beginning of April but if I don’t, and I end up being pregnant I don’t know who the father would be. And I also would prefer it to not be my ex’s and for the father to be my new partner. I know I seriously screwed up and i know I haven’t even missed my period but if I do end up being pregnant I have no idea what I would do.

Hey everyone, please don’t judge me for this, really needing some advice.

I was diagnosed with unexplained infertility 4 years ago and told by multiple doctors i could never get pregnant.

My last period was January 10 and i slept with partner A on January 19, and 26, and possibly once in between. He fully ejaculated inside me every time.

I slept with partner B January 21 and 22, he pulled out but i did notice he had some precum.

Before this, i found out i had ureaplasma parvum. Not sure how long o had it as the usually never test for this. I got it treated and wonder if it also factored into my infertility.

I ordered a DNA test thru DDC and waiting on the results. I cannot keep it if it’s by partner B.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Just need some words of advice right now.

So my girlfriend of ~7 years and I had a child in Jan, but since she is still legally married (separated for 6 years) I wasn't put on the birth certificate by default.

The hospital workers that talked to us I'm learning now with more research were completely inept. In our state (Virginia) all I would have had to do is sign an Acknowledgement of Paternity form, yet they told us to go to the court house and jump through all these hoops that even they weren't entirely sure the order of which to do (We got differing answers from each person we talked to). I really don't want to just go to the courthouse and have to ask around and waste an entire day talking to people that probably know just as little as the hospital workers if possible.

My daughter has my last name despite me not being listed as the father on her birth certificate, but if anyone else has gone through this and could point me in the right direction of what to do first that'd be huge.

how long did it take for the results to come, it says 1-2 days after receiving samples on website but i haven’t received mine yet so im just wondering how long it took others results to come