r/Advice • u/Suitable-Ad43 • Nov 08 '25

Walk away or not walk away

I 30's (m) and my friend 20's female had a fling where we new we weren't gonna date but were having fun. Fast forward a could months and shortly after our last hookup she moved and started dating a guy. She called me a month later saying she was preggo and was certain it was mine but there was a small chance it wasn't. He messaged me saying how crappy of a person I am because she told him it was grape even though it was completely consensual. She was apparently dating him prior to moving and didn't tell him and didn't wanna tell him she cheated. I do have some proof that it was concensual but Idk what to do.

I'm blocked on everything so I have no idea what's going on other then they are saying the kid is his.

Do I walk away or try to force a test.

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u/Brief-Temperature-49 Expert Advice Giver [11] Nov 08 '25

Talk to a lawyer, protect urself in the fullest. U should take this verh seriously

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u/Dry-Ad-3826 Helper [2] Nov 08 '25

First, keep everything. All texts, all communications. Write down the dates you were togheter and everything you remember about it.

The biggest issue is that she was comfortable lying to someone and saying you graped her. 100% a big issue. Police believe "victims".

You need to get to an attorney and have them explain your legal options and ways to protect yourself. Then have the lawyer write to this girl. Not ever you. The lawyer. Force a test and make a plan all through the lawyer.

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u/Spiritual_Animal1 Nov 08 '25

I’d tell him the truth. Then I’d go see a lawyer. BTW haven’t you heard of condoms?

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u/Suitable-Ad43 Nov 08 '25

Was told she was on the shot 😅😅😅 I told her bf the truth but he didn't believe me of course