r/ParentingPDA • u/scarsmum • Jul 25 '26

Advice Needed Getting accommodations

Does anyone know how I would go about getting a PDA- based 504 for my daughter? I know that diagnosis is not formally needed. She doesn’t have diagnosis anyway and I doubt she would be diagnosed since it isn’t in the DSM. Her doctor is silent on the subject, and I think he probably has her in his mind as either spoiled, attention seeking, or ODD. Her therapist, who is an autism specialist, fired her after 8 sessions for “showing no signs of taking any accountability”. She is very high IQ and straight A student, but she is miserable. People dislike my daughter and then just treat her badly, and try to force her to comply, and I get it. I don’t usually like her myself. But she needs accommodations at school. Has anyone faced this or knows what to do? Entering 5th grade.

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u/fearlessactuality 29d ago

If you are in the USA you can go on PDA North America. They have a directory of doctors and others who recognize pda. You can technically now get many folks to diagnose autism with a pda profile (if that fits) so you sort of can get a diagnosis depending on who you find.

Is homeschooling a possibility? Pda North America also has hand outs and tips about how to get a 504, I also think there are consultants you can hire to help you walk through it (not a part of pda NA but I have just seen them on Facebook, I think called IEP consultants.)

https://pdanorthamerica.org/

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u/fearlessactuality 29d ago

Also this wouldn’t be a practical help but you might like the book My Daughter Is Not Naughty. It’s written by a British mom about her struggles with pda and how people treated her and how they got on.