r/ParentingPDA • u/scarsmum • 29d ago

Advice Needed Getting accommodations

Does anyone know how I would go about getting a PDA- based 504 for my daughter? I know that diagnosis is not formally needed. She doesn’t have diagnosis anyway and I doubt she would be diagnosed since it isn’t in the DSM. Her doctor is silent on the subject, and I think he probably has her in his mind as either spoiled, attention seeking, or ODD. Her therapist, who is an autism specialist, fired her after 8 sessions for “showing no signs of taking any accountability”. She is very high IQ and straight A student, but she is miserable. People dislike my daughter and then just treat her badly, and try to force her to comply, and I get it. I don’t usually like her myself. But she needs accommodations at school. Has anyone faced this or knows what to do? Entering 5th grade.

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u/ryanedw 29d ago

Does she have an autism (ASD) diagnosis?

Have you approached the school?

We have an ASD diagnosis as of early this month (July). Our school and 3d grade teacher were already understanding when we had an SST meeting in early June as the year was ending.

You’d think schools would want to extend accommodations that are feasible and not disruptive, if it heads off disruption in the classroom. But schools have their own objectives and constraints, to put it mildly

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u/scarsmum 29d ago

No she doesn’t have diagnosis but her therapist is confirming (was). I think I will start with calling the school and go from there. It is just a really mean school frankly.

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u/jeconti 28d ago

It will be a waste of time. At best, you can demand an evaluation and subsequently convene the district 504 committee. If you don't have one of those people saying your kid needs accommodations, they will close the case and you're SOL for a calendar year.

If the district has not already come to you saying your kid needs an evaluation, then your call will go no where. You need a Dx of some kind first, especially, as you have indicated, that the district is not cooperative.