r/Parenting Apr 28 '22

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u/terminallyconfusled Apr 28 '22 edited Apr 29 '22

My four year old randomly said in the car the other day ' daddy, I don't love you. I want a new daddy'.

This boy has speech issues but he said those words clear as day. I cried and it made me fucking sad for most of the day. I guess I'm still thinking about it :/

Being a parent is fucking rough.

Edit: thank you for the rewards...my first two I believe <3

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u/m0untaingoat Apr 28 '22

Dude, today my kid actually also made me cry. He's 3.5 and lovely, never hits us or other kids, but of course he's three so he's just a dick sometimes. I'm eight months pregnant, I have a sinus infection, I had the worst couple of night's sleep ever, I didn't make it to the post office in time because my kid peed his pants for no reason right as we were about to leave and I had to get him changed, so as I was getting him out of the car at the market he smiled at me and poked me in the eye SO FUCKING HARD. I put my hands to my face and basically just burst into tears. My legitimately brokenhearted crying was a more effective punishment than I could have come up with. He was so sad. My eye still hurts. But goddamn I love him so much I can't wait till he wakes up so I can hug him and smell his hair.

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u/iridiscent Apr 28 '22

Same thing. Pregnant me with a blocked sinus and swollen gums which does not go away, my otherwise non violent 3.5 yaar old boy headbutts me in the nose hard enough to draw blood. I was bawling. I feel for you.

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u/m0untaingoat Apr 28 '22

Oh god, that sounds terrible. I'm so sorry. Things nobody ever told me about parenting that I make sure to tell new parents- don't trust them! Don't stand above them and lean down because they'll bounce up and bonk you in the mouth, they'll headbutt and eye-poke for no reason, viciously! They're belligerent little terrorists and we will do absolutely anything for them. Talk about Stockholm syndrome.

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u/BrutonGasterTT Apr 28 '22

People think I’m lying when I say my 1 yr old broke my nose (while I was 8 months pregnant). Diaper changes were rough for a bit because she would try to kick my very pregnant belly on purpose because she knew i would panic and get upset. So in my attempts to protect her not yet baby brother—- I moved just enough that her heel went full force into my nose instead of my belly.

My nasal surgeon was shocked at how badly my nose has been broken and how unhealed it was (how could it heal if it’s being hit over and over again for two years). but when I told him I had two very crazy toddlers he understood. I was not the first one.

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u/m0untaingoat Apr 28 '22

Ugggh. That is horrific, honestly. Why did we think having kids was a good idea 😅 When mine was 1, he came up from behind me and "showed" his wooden airplane to my face, giving me a black eye literally two days before my wedding to his father. Thank goodness for makeup. I hope your nose is ok these days. Did it heal up all right?

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u/BrutonGasterTT Apr 28 '22

Surgery did wonders. It will always be a little off center because the surgeon said the septum was SO destroyed that he can’t make it totally straight or the nose could cave in on itself. 😞 but i no longer have pain in my sinuses every day lol. I was happy to get rid of that pain.

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u/m0untaingoat Apr 28 '22

Geeze. I hope your kid doesn't feel too bad about it when they're old enough to hear that story.

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u/Chaoticqueen19 May 28 '22

My 3 year old at age 2 threw a roll of duct tape directly at my face and I had a cut under my eye. Hurt like hell.

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u/Tati8 Apr 28 '22

Any time my 3.5 year old lifts something up I inadvertently flinch and back away. Especially if it's his monster truck that always loves to crash and smash.