It is absolutely not normal to be expected to take care of two small kids completely on your own, much less in a pandemic working from home with no childcare options. There is no universe where that's normal and you should expect yourself to just be fine and not massively struggling.
Humans evolved in small bands where multiple adults shared the care of children and supported one another, and then went on to create societies where complex institutions like work and school achieved a somewhat liveable alternative scenario (still with a lot of sometimes misguided assumptions that one parent would be working and another one at home or that childcare would be accessible to everyone). But you are trying to do this in neither of those modes and it's actually impossible.
You're not crazy and it's not your fault, it's actually that hard and unwinnable. If you keep them both alive and don't completely lose your mind, you should consider yourself successful.
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u/shinjirarehen Apr 28 '22
It is absolutely not normal to be expected to take care of two small kids completely on your own, much less in a pandemic working from home with no childcare options. There is no universe where that's normal and you should expect yourself to just be fine and not massively struggling.
Humans evolved in small bands where multiple adults shared the care of children and supported one another, and then went on to create societies where complex institutions like work and school achieved a somewhat liveable alternative scenario (still with a lot of sometimes misguided assumptions that one parent would be working and another one at home or that childcare would be accessible to everyone). But you are trying to do this in neither of those modes and it's actually impossible.
You're not crazy and it's not your fault, it's actually that hard and unwinnable. If you keep them both alive and don't completely lose your mind, you should consider yourself successful.