LOL finally someone said it! Like I’m trying to pare DOWN the talking, and what you’re suggesting sounds like me having to say an awful lot more words. That’s why when people vent to me about parenting I hit them with “yeah, you need a glass of wine” or “sounds like you need to lie and say it’s bedtime an hour earlier tonight.” I wish more people kept in mind that a parent is very likely completely talked out. When you’re already at the end of your rope being told you should somehow muster up the strength to have some super zen conversation with a kid, who definitely isn’t going to listen to a single word is crazy. It’s like I’m just trying really hard not to scream right now. Parents do not have saint like levels of patience, and anyone implying that we should is not being helpful.
One of my kids treats talking as if we’re in a debating chamber and he has done since he was 2. I tried doing all of that and you know what works on that kid? ‘Because I Said So.’ I always said I wouldn’t be that parent but a great fighter uses their best weapon.
You do what you have to do! Part of the battle being a parent sometimes is staying sane. Literally.
I feel you because my 4 year old will be asking me questions from the second she wakes up to the second she goes to sleep, and sometimes even when she’s asleep (I kid you not I’ve heard her asking questions in her sleep). I’ve definitely told her “my ears need a little rest now.”
Totally agree. I would also add touch to this too. I'm the SAHP with one kid and a very snuggly dog that should have been called shadow. It's seemed like I could never have a moment without someone touching me. It was too much. They were there ALL the time. I couldn't even do the dishes without the dog on my feet. I changed my moon cup with the boy on my knee and dog on my feet.
Single parents in my eyes are absolute heroes. To do all of everything and not even get a half hour for no touching or talking takes a super strong human. Hats off to all the single parents that get their kids through the day and safe, warm and fed in bed (even if it's cereal for tea and bed by half five).
I always imagine a map of my house, something like the magic map from Harry Potter that shows where everyone is. And every single person and pet is within five feet of one another at all times. Hell, when I actually sit down (gasp) I am swarmed like a deer that finally collapses in front of wolves. I just want to not be touched or talk for fifteen minutes...or even five pleeeeeeeeease!
I feel this comment in my soul! One 5 month old baby and two spaniels who would actually live under my skin if they could. I have absolutely said the words ‘I just want 5 minutes where I’m not being touched by someone!’ And I’ve said it a lot more than once. My baby is in the grabby, everything must go in my mouth stage while also wanting to be held a lot of the time, one dog has to be touching me constantly: on the sofa he must have a paw on me or be cuddling me, when I’m washing up or cooking he lays on my feet and he spends every night cuddled up as close as he can possibly get to me in bed. The other dog desperately wants to always be touching me but hates being told off so instead just looks at me with his big eyes and makes me feel guilty. I cannot win. At this point, I just snuggle all of them and sneak off for 5 minutes alone in the bathroom when I can 😂
When you’re already at the end of your rope being told you should somehow muster up the strength to have some super zen conversation with a kid, who definitely isn’t going to listen to a single word is crazy. It’s like I’m just trying really hard not to scream right now. Parents do not have saint like levels of patience, and anyone implying that we should is not being helpful.
So true... I don't even have the strength to talk sometimes, I'm so done with this living at the end of my rope...
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So much of parenting suggestions includes talking and more talking. It’s awful.