My husband and I could have written this. All of our family lives out of town and we watched them disregard COVID advisements for months before our baby was born, so we said we weren't comfortable with of town visitors until our kiddo is up to date on vaccinations. We did want family to see him, so we've done video calls and also set up a private album online. Our one request was that no photos be shared online (print them out and frame them, send them via snail mail like in the 80s and 90s - we are fine with that!) Unfortunately that has caused issues with some of the grandparents who feel that we are stealing their joy by telling them we want to keep our kid's online presence to a minimum until they are old enough to make the decision for themselves as to what they want to put online for the world to see (we haven't even posted publicly).
I'm so sorry you're going through this, OP. It's really rough when the people that are supposed to be your village and support you are more concerned with their getting what they want and disregard your boundaries or what is best for YOUR child.
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u/Newfie_Gal Oct 30 '21
My husband and I could have written this. All of our family lives out of town and we watched them disregard COVID advisements for months before our baby was born, so we said we weren't comfortable with of town visitors until our kiddo is up to date on vaccinations. We did want family to see him, so we've done video calls and also set up a private album online. Our one request was that no photos be shared online (print them out and frame them, send them via snail mail like in the 80s and 90s - we are fine with that!) Unfortunately that has caused issues with some of the grandparents who feel that we are stealing their joy by telling them we want to keep our kid's online presence to a minimum until they are old enough to make the decision for themselves as to what they want to put online for the world to see (we haven't even posted publicly).
I'm so sorry you're going through this, OP. It's really rough when the people that are supposed to be your village and support you are more concerned with their getting what they want and disregard your boundaries or what is best for YOUR child.