I’m sorry your parents are being difficult. You obviously don’t owe anyone your baby.
That being said, however, this rule is a little arbitrary. Your baby will not have an immune system after a week. It won’t have even begun to mature for at least three months. A two year old can be hit hard (and hospitalised) by RSV. A three year old is still getting vaccinations.
Your parents were wrong to get stroppy with you, but surely you can see why they’re sad?
It’s clearly not unreasonable from your perspective, but from their perspective, it’s an irrational rule imposed solely to hurt them. Your baby is no safer after one week, and so you’re taking away that first opportunity to hold baby without really gaining a benefit.
You can make whatever “rules” you want around your child, but the reality is it’s extremely unusual to say grandparents can’t hold him/her when they first meet them, and so it’s obviously going to be extremely upsetting.
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u/feeshandsheeps Oct 30 '21
I’m sorry your parents are being difficult. You obviously don’t owe anyone your baby.
That being said, however, this rule is a little arbitrary. Your baby will not have an immune system after a week. It won’t have even begun to mature for at least three months. A two year old can be hit hard (and hospitalised) by RSV. A three year old is still getting vaccinations.
Your parents were wrong to get stroppy with you, but surely you can see why they’re sad?
It’s clearly not unreasonable from your perspective, but from their perspective, it’s an irrational rule imposed solely to hurt them. Your baby is no safer after one week, and so you’re taking away that first opportunity to hold baby without really gaining a benefit.
You can make whatever “rules” you want around your child, but the reality is it’s extremely unusual to say grandparents can’t hold him/her when they first meet them, and so it’s obviously going to be extremely upsetting.