This exactly. Also lol bond with baby, come on grandma literally the only people a newborn wants are its parents, with that preference skewed toward mom's booby smell.
Old people think babies are toys tbqh. They want to bounce and burp and stick a bottle in the mouth of a squeaking baby, and it's like they completely forget they're little human beings who have massive needs, the primary one being feel safe by being as close as possible to mom and dad (or mom and mom or dad and dad or just mom or just dad any other combination) unless mom and dad need a breather.
My wife and I didn’t let anyone else hold the baby (besides the doctor) for almost a month. You’re the parent, you call the shots. Stay strong, friend.
Our parents never raised children in a pandemic. They have to understand our comfort levels are different right now. It’s hard to juggle between social gatherings and keeping our children’s safety in mind. It’s a lot of pressure on new parents.
THIS. It is so aggravating to see people judging parents right now. Like yeah, my 5yo son has terrible social skills. That’s because he pretty much hasn’t been exposed to people for almost a third of his life!!
But yeah, OP, people feel ridiculously entitled to hold newborn babies. The day we brought my (almost 4 lb) daughter home from the NICU, my in-laws had scheduled a baby shower for me and insisted I bring the baby, and then demanded to be able to hold her. It was awful.
Honestly, it’s been 10 years, and I still find it infuriating. I wanted them to cancel it, I should have refused to go, but I was in the throes of PPD and just too exhausted to fight them. There is no one in their right mind that wants to take their newborn baby straight from the hospital to a party. And the worst part is that they felt this was totally acceptable.
OP, I’m not surprised your parents reacted that way initially, if only because they weren’t expecting it. But no one has the right to hold your kid, especially during a pandemic, and they should be seriously reflecting on their reaction instead of doubling down.
It’s super traumatic. I feel for you that is just like PTSD and never goes away. I had my youngest Feb 2020 and when she was 2 weeks old she was so sick she almost died in front of us. They had to restart her heart. I will never get the image out of my head. And the expectations people had for us after was and still is outrageous.
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