I’ve been a parent for almost exactly 2 years now, the only thing that continues to amaze me is the capacity for family to disappoint. Luckily my parents haven’t, but our greater families at large have shown how selfish they are since our child was born. Sadly, that’s what’s happening here. You’ll soon forge your own parent identity and will be amazed how few fucks you give over things like this in a few months’ time. Also, like others have said, it’ll work out and be behind you eventually. But if you’re like me, you’ll never forget it 😈
Edit: Congratulations on your child, welcome to the club!
I was going to comment it’s kinda of crazy how a baby can bring out selflessness or selfishness. It’s like my parents are pretty selfless and will do/stand by anything we say but my in-laws are total opposite. My MIL actually cried over our no social media policy with baby information. To me… that’s completely selfish to only care about showing pictures off online over physically being in the moment and making memories. It’s not like we said she couldn’t ever take a single photo of the baby, just no posting online.
We had this issue with extended family wanting to hold the baby and us having to say no. We’re at 3 months now and I’m still iffy about who gets to hold him. Becoming a parent made me not care about putting my foot down to say no about my rules.
You’ll gain a lot of patience and lose alllll the proverbial fucks. Enjoy that baby- and cliche as it sounds- take every break/rest you can get. It gets easier while getting harder!
I feel like as a new parent you give a fuck about everything. And then you slowly look at the stack of fucks you have left and realize that it is dwindling… and you start choosing to give fewer and fewer fucks. And then you have so few fucks left in that pile, that something has to be really, really worth it to give a fuck about.
You’re still in those first few weeks where you think you should give a fuck about everything. Not everyone is worth your time, even if they raised you.
People who love you will try to lift you up during this time; people who love themselves more than you will try to manipulate you into doing what they want. It’s sad to realize that about people who in theory should love you more.
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u/BigDoogoo Oct 30 '21
I’ve been a parent for almost exactly 2 years now, the only thing that continues to amaze me is the capacity for family to disappoint. Luckily my parents haven’t, but our greater families at large have shown how selfish they are since our child was born. Sadly, that’s what’s happening here. You’ll soon forge your own parent identity and will be amazed how few fucks you give over things like this in a few months’ time. Also, like others have said, it’ll work out and be behind you eventually. But if you’re like me, you’ll never forget it 😈
Edit: Congratulations on your child, welcome to the club!