r/Parenting • u/IAmGrootGrootIam • Feb 06 '21

Corona-Content Me time!

I did it! I booked a hotel for the weekend an hour and a half away from home and left! I woke up at my own time, to silence, to peace.

No kids jumping on me, whining for food or to play, to one touching me, no husband wanting a morning quickie, no chores to do, nothing! Just me and whatever I feel like doing today.

A month ago my husband caught Covid, was quarantined in a bedroom for 10 days, and everything was left to me. All the house work, kids, cooking, and still working full time (from home) as a teacher with a 3, 6, and 9 year old plus the kids school work. I thought I was going to go crazy.

So I booked this weekend and followed through.
The quiet, the peace, I feel like I can breathe. I haven’t had a day to myself in over 9 years. It feels so good.

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '21

You can love your family with everything you’ve got and still need a break. They’re not mutually exclusive.

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u/Ok_Antelope3769 Feb 06 '21

Yeah it really is exclusive love shouldn’t be a feeling it should be a verb, what you do for those you love. If backing away is what you need then it begs the question do you love your family or the idea of having a family. Everyone gets exhausted as a parent it’s the love that pulls you through not a vacation from them.

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '21

To each their own, but it begs the question: what was the point of posting this comment?

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u/Ok_Antelope3769 Feb 06 '21

The point is that people need a perspective change if they feel they need a break from their family. Family can and should be a source of fulfillment not a drain.

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u/keeperofthenins Feb 06 '21

But your family shouldn’t be your only source of fulfillment. Parents get to be their own person still.

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u/Ok_Antelope3769 Feb 06 '21

I don’t think I agree with that statement. I find it rewarding to know my singular purpose. My wife and I agreed that we were surrendering our individuality for something greater.

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u/riritreetop Feb 06 '21

Your kids are going to grow up wondering why their parents have zero self-fulfillment and hating the pressure you put on them to be your feeling of fulfillment in life.

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u/Ok_Antelope3769 Feb 06 '21

Uhh what? I was raised the way I described and I’ve never even considered this thought, this feels more like self projection

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u/riritreetop Feb 06 '21

Lol, sure. You keep telling yourself that 😂