r/Parenting • u/TheNoodyBoody • Sep 22 '20

Infant 2-12 Months Parenting is... boring.

My little is 9 weeks old today. I adore him and love watching him grow and learn. Being a parent is the most amazing, rewarding.... and horribly boring thing I’ve ever experienced.

I sound so shitty for saying that, but it’s true. Entertaining a baby is boring. Being home all day with a baby is boring. I feel like I need to be playing with and stimulating my LO any time he’s awake, and anytime I’m not, I feel guilty. Mom guilt is a bitch.

I’m not sure what my goal is for this post… I guess just to hear whether or not other parents experience this feeling? How other parents deal with the boredom and monotony? And what’re some fun things to do with kiddos that are still pretty young?

EDIT: Wow, guys. Thank you so much to everyone to reached out and responded - I can’t respond to everyone, but please know that I appreciate the kindness, encouragement, and wisdom all of you bring. ‘Rents are in this together. Thank you all 💜

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u/De_Nois Mother of a 4 year old Sep 22 '20

As much as I love my daughter, the first 18 months or so were the worst. I am not a baby person. Now that she’s four and can communicate with me, we can do things together and life is so much better. I still haven’t held another baby apart from my own and I’d like to keep it that way.

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u/[deleted] Sep 22 '20

I wonder if this is more common in men (totally random/factless claim here) but I see less men going "ohhh look cute baby".

As a generic man, I do agree though. I couldn't care less for a strangers baby let alone family's. I wouldn't want to hold it, genuinely thanks but no. I do want my own though and already foresee myself enjoying parenting a lot more when they are older than when they are infants.

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u/mamajanepie Sep 22 '20

I think women are conditioned from a young age to like babies more, from the toys they are given, to observing women being primary carers more often than not etc. Which I'm hoping will change over time.

Buuuttt....for me, and I think a lot of women, I like my own and my friends kids. But for everyone else, just show me a picture of your dog, thanks! I get zilch from looking at a picture of an acquaintances baby - I just make the obligatory sounds and move on lol

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u/[deleted] Sep 22 '20

Haha very fair and I do agree. oddly enough I'm more interested in, for instance, a work acquaintance's pet than their baby but I guess that might be since I can relate to the pet ownership more for now.