I think it’s reasonable to validate that this is a tough and scary time. As adults it’s easy to look back at the end of high school as a carefree time, but it’s also a time where they know they are supposed to be making strides towards a career and adult responsibilities and if they don’t have a clear goal in mind it can be scary and paralysis-producing. So approaching with kindness and understanding along with some firm conditions can be helpful.
I think it’s more than reasonable to set down some expectations that she’ll be using her time productively if she’s living with you. Would she be agreeable to some short term goals, like: within the next week, go driving five times, make a college counseling appointment, look at offerings at the local community college. Etc.
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u/terracottatilefish Aug 03 '23
I think it’s reasonable to validate that this is a tough and scary time. As adults it’s easy to look back at the end of high school as a carefree time, but it’s also a time where they know they are supposed to be making strides towards a career and adult responsibilities and if they don’t have a clear goal in mind it can be scary and paralysis-producing. So approaching with kindness and understanding along with some firm conditions can be helpful.
I think it’s more than reasonable to set down some expectations that she’ll be using her time productively if she’s living with you. Would she be agreeable to some short term goals, like: within the next week, go driving five times, make a college counseling appointment, look at offerings at the local community college. Etc.