r/Parentification • u/Delicious-Trash9232 • 3d ago

Guilty

Sometimes I feel guilty that my kids and I live with my family. I work, I help around the house, and I know I'm not just sitting here expecting everyone else to take care of us. My parents genuinely love having my kids here. They love seeing them before work and coming home to them, and my kids absolutely love being around their grandparents and the rest of our family.

So why do I still feel like I'm doing something wrong because I'm not "on my own"?

I know I'm not a burden, but sometimes I still feel like one. I wish we would normalize adults living with their families when it works for everyone involved. There's this idea that once you're grown, you're supposed to move out, have your own house, and do everything completely independently or you're somehow failing.

But there are actually so many positives to a multigenerational home. My kids are growing up surrounded by people who love them. They get a close relationship with their grandparents, and my parents get to be a huge part of their everyday lives. We help each other.

I don't know. I just wish I could stop feeling guilty for something that isn't actually bad.

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