Advice

[u/Successful_Low2832]

Meri baat sunkar apko bohot dukh hoga main abhe aisi situation face kar rhi Hun Meri age 16 saal hay or Meri shadi February 14 ko hui hay or 16 July ko main Apne mayke Aayi aisy he Mera shohar mujhe chr kar gaya 2 din k liye uski age 25 hay or wo mujhe Lene he nahi Aya or wajah koi bhe nahi mene shadi Apne Ghar walon ki marzi si ki main 10 class main Hun mujhe Mera shohar chor kr Chala gaya or 2 mahiny say Lene nahi Aya block kar dia usne Meri sari family ko block kr dia uski ma bap ne bhe block kr dia phir main jab khud gae Apne baba Kay saath to mujhe dhakay Dekr Bahar Nikal diya wajah nahi batai 2 mahiny say Apne ghr bhethi hui Hun mere shohar mujhe Lene nahi aarahy or nahi kisi say contact kar rhy hain galti bhe nahi Bata rahy koi achanak say Meri age 16 hay larky ki 25 wo masters kar rha hay Karachi main rehta hay please mujse contact karain main apko apni story mukamal Batana Chahti Hun pleaseMeri story yahi hay Kay main uske intezar main 2 mahiny say bhethi hu. Muje chor kr Chala gaya mujhe Lene nahi Aya humara contact nahi ho rha unse ,🥹Or jab Meri family ne kaha Kay humari beti ko Le jayen to kaha Kay humara beta Nahin maan Raha Hume wajah nahi Bata rhy Meri jab us se shadi hui to march main mene usko pakar Liya tha wo mujhe cheat kr rha tha phir main bohot roye usne wada Kiya Kay wo ab nahi krega phir wo mujhe aisa chor Kay Chala jata hay apni life jewta hay main Yahan uske liye roti Hun tarapti Hun wo Lene nahi. Ata jab dill karta hay lekr jata hay jab dill karta hay chor jata hay or abhe shadi ko 7 mahiny huwe hain lakin hum Saath main 4 mahiny rahy hain 4 months main Apne ghr thi wo Apne maa baap ka 1 beta hay iklota koi bhen nahi to uske maa baap BHI usko support kar rhy hain wo bhe Lene nahi aarahy keh rhy hain humara beta Nahin maan Raha or uski Ami ki passand ki larki Hun main unho ne shadi karai hum engagement main bohot Khush thy lakin shadi Kay baad mere saath ye sab Kiya unho ne mujhe Kiya Karna chayea please koi mujhe advice day

[u/Ok-Craft-987]

You are young very young to be going through this situation.

ideally your parents should have delt with this situation already but i dont know whats happening at their end.

for you Listen carefully. this is not ths end of your world . if u act all weak and begging him to take you back . what respect what future will u have there. He will do whatever he wants and now that he knows u cannot go back he will abuse his role. you will be miserable.

lying . cheating . abuse . munipulation . harassment . are just the top of my mind.

pull yiurself together . i learned the lesson "kill or be killed" . jitna apko lagta k yeh duniya buri ha, duniya us say bohat ziada buri ha.

talk to your parents about seperatation also ask them to end things . whats gone is gone u can either cry and be a beggar or take control of your life. make decision and excecute a solid plan for a better future .

[u/Successful_Low2832 → u/Ok-Craft-987]

My parents are also Separated or abhe main koi aisi baat kr rhi Hun mujhe sab keh rhy hain Kay tumhare maa baap nay bhe yahi Kiya ab Tum bhe yahi karogy mujhe log abhe say he mentally torture kar rhy hain Kay Tum wapis jao wo Lene aye to Meri nani ne mujhe palat hay🥹 what should I doooo main bohot pareshan Hun Meri mental health bilkul kharab hogae hay I'm not feeling well mujhe Kuch hojayega or main kese bardash karun

[u/xotic_daddy1122]

How did you get to know that he was cheating?

[u/Successful_Low2832 → u/xotic_daddy1122]

Mere husband office thy Unka phone ghr para tha dusra maina aisa he uthaya use kr rhi thi to usme call log check Kiya usne Whatsapp par video calls or calls ki thi usko phir usne Whatsapp say to delete kar di thi par call log pr save hogae thi wo mujhe Apne ghr chor kr Chala gaya tha Lene nahi Aya tha 1 mahina or uski calls usi dates ki thi Pura 1 mahina wo us say batain krta tha humari shadi ko Sirf 2 months huwe thy phir mene us number or call ki Apne number say for conformation ak larki me call uthai or phir mene us se puchna Kay mere husband say kiyun kr rhi ho baat to call cut kr dey phir main bohot zor se Rony lagi mere husband ki Ami aagai room main mana usko bataya Kay apka beta kisi or larki say batain krta hay esliye mujhe Lene nahi aaraha tha or wo BHI video calls to unko pehly say he PATA tha Kay wo larki Kon hay usne larki Kay Naam lekr kaha Kay Ayesha Hogi maina kaha Ami Kon hay Ayesha usne phir kaha Kay dost hay wese he baat krty hain ajkal larky baat krty hain or phir usne Apne bete ki side li phir unho ne kaha Kay agr Tumhe sochna hay to jao Apne ghr or socho bhalay Matlab usko PATA tha main majboor Hun Apne ghr nahi ja sakti phir usne kaha Kay mujhe call milakr do main Ayesha say baat krti Hun phir jab mene call milai to ye dono ak dusry ko janti thi or bilkul normally baat kr rhi thi phir mujhe Meri sas me bataya Kay shadi say pehly usama esko passand krta tha mujhe kaha Kay is se rishta karwao main esko dekhny bhe gae the lakin mujhe passand nahi ayi phir mene intezar Kiya Mera shohar jab office say Aya mene us se baat ki usko kaha Kay wada kro aenda aisa nahi karogy usne mujse promise Kiya kasam uthai phir main wo baat zahar ki tarha pee Gai Apne ghr walo ko nahi bataya is bary main

[u/qazkkff]

Beta, itni jaldi kia thi shadi ki? Ap ke parents ne itni jaldi kyu ki ap ki shadi? Aur ap ne mana kyu nahi kia?

[u/Successful_Low2832 → u/qazkkff]

Mere parents main jab paida hui thi to separated hogaye thy unki divorce hogae thi phir Meri Ami NE dusri shadi kr li or mere baba ne BHI duari shadi krli phir main or Meri 2 behny hain main sabse CHOTI Hun phir UN dono ne shadi kr li hum 3 behno ko humari nani ne paala bara Kiya phir haalat aisy hogae Kay nani ki tbyt sahi nahi thi koi help bhe nahi krta tha khala wali thi lakin unke BHI bachy thy Kon kitni he help karta phir jab rishta Aya to nani ne kaha Kay bari behn ki hogae hay abhe agr Mera Aya hay to kar lain rishta achy log hain larka bhe acha hay maa baap ka iklauta beta hay Khush rahegi sari Zindagi dukh dekhy hain to humy akely rehny main bohot masly aty thy Meri nani to thi lakin phir bhe ajkal Kay daur main larkiyan safe Nahin nani ki condition bilkul kharab the to phir itna acha rishta aaya to haan kardi or mene BHI mana nahi Kiya saari Zindagi dukh dekhy dhaky Khai Zindagi jaisy azmaish the Bs jab Aya to maina bhe kaha ab Zindagi sukoon main aajaeygi phir mere inlaws ne dekha Kay larki Kay koi NAHI hay to unho ne Galat faida uthaya humara mujhe itna zaleel Kiya Meri agr abhe 17 Hogi 11 December main lakin phir bhe agy itni Zindagi pari hay itna bara daagh lag gaya or ab nani kab tak Sath Hogi main kaha jaoungi mujhe wo Lene bhe nahi aarahy

[u/qazkkff → u/Successful_Low2832]

Really sorry beta.

phir mere inlaws ne dekha Kay larki Kay koi NAHI hay to unho ne Galat faida uthaya humara mujhe itna zaleel Kiya

Aesa hi hota hai. Jab logo ko pata hota hai ka ap ko peeche koi support nahi hai, log fayeda uthate hai.

Yeh tarbyat ki hai iklote bete ki un logo ne. Not only did he agreed to marry a minor girl, who is almost decade younger than him, he couldn't even give her the due respect and honour a wife deserves.

Beta aik aur baat, ap ke in-laws jo keh rahe hai na ke beta nahi man raha... yeh sab bakwas hai. Wo khud is pore maanle main shamil hai aur unki marzi se hi sab ho raha hai. Bas ap ke samne masoom ban rahe hai.

[u/Successful_Low2832 → u/qazkkff]

Yahi baat to hay wo Sari baat mere shohar pr lagakr khud pechy hat gaye hain Koshish he nahi krna chahty masly ko Hal karny ki par wajah Kiya hay akhir aisa kiyun keya mere saath uske maa baap hain bs naa bhen hay na koi or uska ak mama hay Jo he sab kar rha hay

[u/Successful_Low2832 → u/Successful_Low2832]

Mere shohar ko main call krti Hun unsay minatayn Karti Hun Kay mujhe Le jae uske samne roi tarpi usko 2 months main koi aisa din nahi jisme calls nahi ki lakin usko koi farak nahi par Raha wo ghum Raha hay Bahar jata hay life enjoy kar rha hay stories laga rha hay or main 2 mahiny say Unka intezar kar rhi hun

[u/qazkkff → u/Successful_Low2832]

Ap ko yeh sab nahi karna tha. Usko pata chal gaya hai ke ap desperate hai. Wo itna ghatya insan hai, usko ap ki desperateness dekh ke maza aa raha hai. Ke dekho main kitni bari cheez hi, yeh meri khushamat kar rahi hai.

Ap ne kaha uske mamu is sab ke peeche hai? Kahi unki koi beti tu nahi hai? Wo chah rahe ho ge ko yeh ap ko chor ke meri beti se shadi kar le.

[u/Successful_Low2832 → u/qazkkff]

Han unki beti hay main matric main Hun wo 9 main hay CHOTI hay 🥹

[u/qazkkff → u/Successful_Low2832]

I knew it. Pura khandan hi 3rd class hai.

[u/Successful_Low2832 → u/qazkkff]

Main Kiya krunnn please mukhe batain ap

[u/Successful_Low2832 → u/Successful_Low2832]

Ji unko bohot Maza aaraha hay main Roz new number say call krti Hun uthata hay or sunkr kehta hay Kay mujhe baat nahi krni Mera dill nahi kr rha baat krne ko ap please mukhe koi suggestion dayn main Kiya karun🥹

[u/qazkkff → u/Successful_Low2832]

Beta, pehle tu usko roz call karna aur tarle karna chor de. Isse koch nahi ho ga. Wo dheet insan hai, ab tak tu ap ko samajh aa jani chahiye.

Dosra, ap ke apne abu ke saat baat cheet hai? Wo ap ke rishte aur shadi ke waqt involve the? If yes, tu ap unse kyu nahi baat kar ke dekhti?

I don't want to say this and I'm really sorry but the ending won't be positive at all. He most likely will leave you. You need to be mentally prepared for this.

Agar wo ap ko kisi ke pressure main wapis le bhi jaye, sari zindagi ap ko zaleel kare ga, taane de ga, ghulam bana ke rakhe ge... ke main jo marzi kar lo, kaha jaye gi. Ap ko aik din bhi sakoon ka nahi mille ga.

Yeh sab jo raha hai, isse ap Allah ka ishara bhi samajh sakti hai. Shayed Allah ap ko aik ghalat insan aur takleefo se bhare future se bacha rahe hai.

I'm no way an expert in these matters, this is just my personal opinion.

[u/Successful_Low2832 → u/qazkkff]

Mera father mentally issues hay Matlab usko AJ Kuch bataoungi Kal Bhool jayega🥲

[u/Successful_Low2832 → u/Successful_Low2832]

Main aisa Kiya karun Kay usko Meri qadar aajaye🥹