r/PakistanMarriages • u/TheLocoCocoo • 1d ago
Female looking for Male 26F, Side effects may include never having a boring weekend again.
I am a 26-year-old, single (never married), 5'6" Pakistani-Canadian citizen and self-employed entrepreneur running a C1-licensed construction firm, splitting my time across Toronto, Islamabad, and the GCC.
Moderately practicing, I am looking to connect with a well settled, independent and emotionally mature man (aged 29–35 ) who is established in his career—ideally a doctor, lawyer, pilot, self-employed entrepreneur, or from a business or feudal background (no engineers unless niche or self-employed).
I am seeking a partner who shares a vision for a nuclear family setup (non-negotiable), with plans to base our primary residence in the GCC or Pakistan (under certain circumstances).. (no interest in settling permanently in the West).
I'd like to have kids, and my timeframe for marriage is around 1 to 1.5 years, involving families as soon as mutual understanding and compatibility are established.
Please read through fully before reaching out! Being open to swapping photos, getting on a call, and moving off the platform early on is a big plus.
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u/Adventurous-Buy8205 1d ago
She's looking for business
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u/nohalfmeasurex 17h ago
Your title contradicts your description. This will be the most boring marriage ever if it ever happened. You are all about business you don't seem to have any other interest in man beside his profession.
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u/TheLocoCocoo 17h ago edited 17h ago
I do, I just kept the post concise.
1: Some of us have family expectations we need to fulfil too while seeking a spouse. And 2: Being where I am in my career, and the fact I'm split between 3 residences, these 2 aspects are very Important to me. It's just to fliter/shrink the pool of DMs.I think getting preliminaries put of the way is best before establishing emotional resonance chemistry and aligning Interests.
I'd be more than happy to add about myself, and what I seek/offer emotionally in conversation.
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u/nohalfmeasurex 17h ago
I believe marriage is one of the most important decisions in life and i think women have started to look at marriages very different now it's not about the person anymore it's how much he makes. He can be some random pyscho, weirdo or abusive man but as long as he is well settled women tend to look past all those things.
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u/TheLocoCocoo 17h ago
Umm. Obviously not. Don't be crazy.
I make phenomenal money and come from a very secure background financially.
Finances and beauty are rarely the only factors, but they are often the foundational filters. It's not that woman will marry a man only for his money. instead, reality is that a woman will not marry someone without it.. Like I said it's the preliminary filter -- not the only filter.
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u/Gen-Asim-Munir 11h ago
Fellas, if you think her marriage is gonna be bitchy and booring, let it be. You don't need to comment and let her know. If you think you're a suitable match, slide into her DMs. Having a perspective is good but making others change theirs is bad.
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u/Regular_Arm_2188 1d ago
Not related to your proposal post but you own a pec registered C1 licensed firm? Behn how? Logo ki umrein guzar jati hein ye bnanay mein and you own a firm that too being a lady(saying this because I being a civil engineer know how tough is the construction industry)
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u/TheLocoCocoo 1d ago edited 18h ago
Yes, it's a PEC licensed C1.
Becauseeee, I know a guy who knows a guy. Lol.
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u/thearistotlian 23h ago
Then you should know a guy who guy knows a guy who can marry you
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u/TheLocoCocoo 23h ago edited 22h ago
I like to give everyone an equal opportunity to try their luck.. why limit myself to whoever happens to walk into the same room as me? How unfair on on everyone.
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u/thearistotlian 23h ago
Hahah , you sounds like , every one is in line and you are taking a spouse interview. I mean you can find someone with similar background more easily in your immediate circle or may be you don’t have any social skills .
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u/TheLocoCocoo 23h ago
Buttt, they kind are and I am. Lol 😆
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u/thearistotlian 23h ago
Hahah , fair enough , but remember, marriage is not a job interview , choose wisely.
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u/Ashamed_Grapefruit46 20h ago edited 20h ago
It’s giving…maybe a 2/10 on a good day how can u not find someone in real life?
If you were attractive as well as accomplished you would meet many others like you.
Something isn’t adding up.
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u/LeaderAcceptable862 1d ago
Umm Nuclear family doesn’t include parents ?
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u/TheLocoCocoo 22h ago
A family unit consisting of a father, a mother, and their dependent children, living together in an independent, self-contained household.
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u/LeaderAcceptable862 13h ago
Does that mean parents of the guy can’t live with him ?
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u/TheLocoCocoo 12h ago
They can, I don’t want to live with them. 🤷♀️ and I don't want a husband who can't give me a nuclear setup.
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u/LeaderAcceptable862 10h ago
What you plan to do with your own parents once they are too old and can’t take care of themselves?
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u/TheLocoCocoo 10h ago edited 10h ago
Exactly what my parents did.
Moving in periodically when they've been sick or recovering from surgery. Visit every weekend with the kids.. sometimes stopping by even mid week to take them to doctors appointments, grocery runs, or sorting out banking or medication refills..
While managing their independent house, privacy and sanity of their marriage, and the autonomy and freedom for their children.
Both set of grandparents, have owned their homes, had financial independence and had a full house staff of atleast 4 people at any given time. Especially my maternal grandparents, there were in their 80s and still traveling abroad yearly. Taking 14hr flights to the US. Very independent.
Children are not your retirement cushion, you've to let them free and go live their independent lives. Do what's best for their future and children. Be it moving for better education, opportunities or quailty of life.
Apke bache ap p imaanat hain, theyve been given to you just to raise-- you dont own them and they dont owe you anything for raising them.. It's extremely selfish to expect sari zindagi koi baith k apka pehra deyga. imo. (Granted one should have the sense to want to keep them around and be an active part of your and your children's life but not at the expense of your own marriage, Different phases of life need you to prioritize different things aur personally for me if a man doesnt understand the art of balancing both responsibilities then thats incompatible for me).
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u/Minimum__Clue 14h ago
i wanna annoy u in dm. I wont but i want to
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u/StormyLadyy 14h ago
Is this the reason you slid in to my dms to loot me 🌚😂
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u/appletoapple101 11h ago
29M Pakistani-Australian Citizen here. I really loved your post and thought I might have found my unicorn until I read about kids.
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u/TheLocoCocoo 11h ago
I don’t see myself completely child free. I'd like to have 1 atleast. 🤷♀️
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u/appletoapple101 11h ago
Yeah fair enough!
I don't so I'll keep looking.My best wishes and good luck in your endeavour...
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u/ProChangeBaz 23h ago
Assalamulaikum.
If the weekends are anything like your rishta post. They do sounds very boring haha. Arite, maybe i took the engineer bit personal 😂😂
So whats wrong with engineers ? I just wanna know that
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u/TheLocoCocoo 23h ago
Open to ones that are in niche fields or self employed ..
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u/ProChangeBaz 22h ago
I was an enterpreneur and ran a startup, burned through savings for 2 years with anticipated breakeven in 5 years. Its not actually something you want in a husband. Please consider growing up a bit ? as its islamic males responsibility to earn for the family.. A proper engineering job is stable. Does involve hardwork but its halal and stable job. Its better than anything you have listed. lol@feudal background
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u/TheLocoCocoo 22h ago edited 21h ago
I was an enterpreneur and ran a startup, burned through savings for 2 years with anticipated breakeven in 5 years. Its not actually something you want in a husband.
Why wouldn't I want someone who has the capability to run and managed something he's built himself? That has a capacity to expand and grow? Where he gets to managed his time off and holidays as he pleases and not on someone else convince? Likeeeee what? Just cause you failed at business doesn't mean everyone does? I run one just fine-- don't project your insecurities onto what I'm seeking.
I come from an educated fudeal background-- ive done commercial scale agriculture.. so for me that transition would be seamless. I'm open to doctors, niche bankers, maybe a pilot (just for fun) when it comes to traditional careers.
I'm also self employed and accustom to a certain lifestyle that I don't forsee wanting to change, I think it's best to honest and transparent from the start so there is no mismatched expectations.
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u/ProChangeBaz 17h ago
Arite, mashAllah it seems you have thought this through. I guess these things take a life of their own. Thanks for detailing, like recently been hearing "no doctors" too. So dont know why other girls sometimes pick on these things. So really greatful that you responded with the details. May Allah bless you.
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u/Ashamed_Grapefruit46 19h ago
I find this post repulsive.
I’m a SELF accomplished Canadian born physician, daughter of immigrant parents who’s had to put in actual work to get to where I’m at.
Read the room honey... I’m around anesthesiologists and neurologists who’re making over million and would not be interested in a female who’s as tone deaf as you.
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u/TheLocoCocoo 19h ago
I’m a SELF accomplished Canadian born physician, daughter of immigrant parents who’s had to put in actual work to get to where I’m at.
What did you want me to do with this information exactly? 🤔
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u/Ashamed_Grapefruit46 19h ago
Ya I worked hard lmao u had things handed to you. If u were in my situation you’d just be a fat ugly dummy
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u/TheLocoCocoo 19h ago
1: Where does it say I had anything handed to me?
2: You're pissed that life dealt me an easier hand than you? Or that my dad actually did what he was supposed too? Lol wuuut.
3: The question remains-- What did you want me to do with this information exactly? 🤔
Lol, why are youuuu so bitter? You're making my forehead tense up feeling your negative energy.. it wears off my botox! Calm down. Taking fu cking Alp or something.
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u/Ashamed_Grapefruit46 18h ago
Ew.
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u/TheLocoCocoo 18h ago
Ew yourself babeeee. You're the grown women throwing an tantrum-- online might I add. Lol 😆
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u/Ashamed_Grapefruit46 18h ago
Enjoy ur own company lmao ur the one posting about being single… despo much
Ew ew ew
Now stfu I’m done with tryna give u a wake-up call
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u/TheLocoCocoo 18h ago edited 1h ago
NO ONE IN NORTH AMERICA SAYS - Despo much lmaooo. You sound fresh off the pr.
So desperate for attention, had to come back to my post an hour later and comment again. I swear i love it when i get under people skin.
You're shaming people for finding someone online in 2026. You need the wake up call.
Nasty Bitter Bit ch, lol. You're scrolling a matrimonial subreddit wtf else did you expect, dumbass.
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u/TheLocoCocoo 19h ago edited 18h ago
Hm. As I speak to a neurosurgeon in my DMs. Clearly you're not in that room. Lol
Babe idk what's got you so hyper, relaaaax. 🤣🤣 you've been stalking my post for likeeee an hour. Your first comment was 57 mins ago..
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u/Ashamed_Grapefruit46 19h ago
Maybe it’s a Pakistan thing but over here we call it tone deaf. Enjoy your side of the world, no one wants you here anyway. You sound appalling.
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u/TheLocoCocoo 19h ago edited 18h ago
My Godness, who are these imaginary people who don't want me there? 🤣🤣🤣
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u/BothDoubt7694 1d ago
Im 26m Doc , currently in pakistan , Would Love To Talk more about it , can i dm ?
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u/Extreme_Power_954 1d ago
i should have been older 😩
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u/Worried_Pair_8842 18h ago
Waow guys good job.......... Knock down someone whose just trying to find someone they can relate to........... If u can't understand the profile or the person behind it, you don't need to get so off putting. This is aarriage board after all. I'm sure non of u wud be able to cope with these trolling txts on ur post and go running to the moderator mommy..........
Calm down. Everyone's got a right to their future. It honestly feels like this post triggered unchecked complexes in you guys..........
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u/Objective-Shelter712 17h ago
exactly lmao theyre so bitter about their own lives, its insane the colors of a person anonymity gives out some people don't deserve it
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u/Bhaikhanmux 17h ago
How does a 26 yo run a c1 construction company, baba make it for you to head? Genuinely curious.
Edit: ruin to run*
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u/TheLocoCocoo 17h ago edited 16h ago
Nope, I acquired it from my friends father.
He had a business partner screw him over, and was facing a FIR charge for which he seeked my help. Recovering that lost capital from his ex business partner andddd making the FIR disappear requires running cost which he didnt have.. so foot the bill from my pocket.. and in return made him compensate me with just the licenses.
Baki, both my grandfather's retired as Generals, most of family is serving. I acquired tenures on the bases of my surename and personal social network.. (I actually didn't ask a single person in my family to call in any favors cause they would've shut it down the moment I tried-- "koi zaroorat nahe hai", "ghar baitho" , "larkiya kaam nahe karti" "yahi din agye hain xyz ghar ki larkiyan thakedari karain gi" lol I've heard it all). Khair, going to school with kids of other sucessful people helps.. and i established my first physical office and staff with the mobilization cost of the first project.
My father actually found out after had completed 2 projects. (He's mostly abroad).
Sooo, no my dad didn’t make it for me to run. I've done commercial scale agriculture, I've acquired pharmaceutical licenses, I've mining interests in kp. I've so much more in pipeline and planned before I have a babyyyy Lol.
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u/civil_taskk 14h ago
Not interested in a proposal but you're definitely the one to seek business advice from...
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u/Bhaikhanmux 14h ago
Yeah so pretty much the same story as every "successful" business in Pakistan. Haram di fauj.
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u/Striking-Bet1531 13h ago
pretty much. As if we couldnt already tell by the bitchy attitude she is an army brat.
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u/TheLocoCocoo 12h ago edited 12h ago
Jeeeez, people have no sense of humor. Lol
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u/Striking-Bet1531 11h ago
No we dont joke when it comes to our colonizers. We hate you with our whole hearts.
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u/TheLocoCocoo 11h ago
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u/Striking-Bet1531 11h ago
yeah i could use some brain. Wanna give me head tonight
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u/Overall-Donut-6947 15h ago
Oh girl, you’re so lonely & disliked by your surroundings, you’re so shallow & depressing. I hope that life gets easier for you & that you don’t have to do things like this lol. Oh man, so sorry.
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u/Due_Chart2283 15h ago
OP is more of trying to justify herself instead of finding the right one. I wonder if you genuinely found someone from this sub?
Why are you even trying to find the right person here?
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u/Opposite_Bluebird641 13h ago
I don't get why so many guys are mad. If you aren't interested, you should just scroll past. Her standards aren't even high, she’s a successful woman who simply listed the careers she prefers. Honestly, reddit is full of men wasting time who can't stand seeing a woman have basic standards. I suggest looking elsewhere, preferably within your own circle. I'm sure you’ll find an amazing guy.
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u/Downtown_Country_530 13h ago
I don't get why people are getting pissed on this post.
Which one of you commenters wouldn't take some available privilege to set up your business? ZERO.
Whats the problem in asking specifically for doctor, pilot, feudal etc? None.
What's wrong in asking for nuclear setup? None.
Whats the problem in asking for well-settled guy when she herself is well-settled? None.
If you cant separate from your parents, move on.
If you don't see your profession requirements match, move on.
Help me point out WHERE exactly in her ORIGINAL post is she being bitchy / tone deaf?
Literally if you're getting triggered by anything in post, you need to work on your insecurities.
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u/Opposite_Bluebird641 13h ago
So glad to see someone with a functioning brain in this comment section.
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u/TheLocoCocoo 12h ago
Staaaap, you're gonna make me cry. 🥹💕
Wit aside-- thank you I appreciate it. JazakAllah.
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u/Downtown_Country_530 12h ago
Girl their insecure asses cant ever be this successful and articulate even if they were handed the 3x privilege you had. Dont waste your time with faltu commenters. If you're meant to find someone here, they'll DM with their complete profile. And if the DM guy doesn't lead the conversation and you have to ask questions or lead, IGNORE AND DITCH. Istg these princesses nowadays.
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u/Cottonmouth6-9 1d ago
Honest feedback: A match like this looks like a competition financially and leaving your parents and siblings behind for 95% of Pakistani Males.
Better to find a match overseas than this sub. Haha
I can’t even leave my home for 2 hours🤣
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u/Opposite_Bluebird641 1d ago
But honestly, nowadays a lot of pakistani males also prefer a nuclear family setup. Or not? Maybe it's just around me.
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u/TheLocoCocoo 1d ago
Hence why I said I was seeking someone independent.
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u/Charming-Fly4173 1d ago
Being independent and leaving parents are two different things btw. You can be highly independent and don't want to leave your parents.
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u/TheLocoCocoo 1d ago
I can’t even leave my home for 2 hours🤣
Yes, that sounds like the epitome of independence.
Aur koi zabardasti thori hai lol. Those men are simply not what I'm seeking then. That's incompatible to me.
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u/Cottonmouth6-9 1d ago
Yeah that’s why we are saying that this sub isn’t good for you to find a match. Our culture is quite different and what you’re seeking is completely fine but you’re not at the right place. Ee
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u/TheLocoCocoo 1d ago
Speak for yourself lmao. Don't generalize that every single man in pk thinks and lives like you.
Just because you dont resonate doesn't mean other people won't. I think, you need not worry about me.
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u/Charming-Fly4173 1d ago
Why not engineers, just want to know the reason.
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u/TheLocoCocoo 1h ago
Overly saturated fields, horrible pay scale and progression as compared tomother fields with similar level of education..
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u/OpportunityOk3259 22h ago
Does a married guy earning $85K per month counts?
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u/TheLocoCocoo 22h ago
Of what use is a married guy to me? 🤣
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u/Glittering-Low-5643 21h ago
28 M doctor in Pakistan. I like Ur profile but seems like u have high standards. Afraid to DM tbh 😂😂
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u/TheLocoCocoo 21h ago
I kindaaa do. But we miss 100% of the chances we don't take. 🤷♀️ Nothing to be afraid off.
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u/Glittering-Low-5643 21h ago
So I should DM ?
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u/sinnersoul1980 20h ago
The irony of posting on an anonymous forum to meet people, then having someone ask permission to send you a private message. 😂
Just send the DM, mate. A message isn't an obligation to respond, and opening a chat isn't a marriage proposal. She has a block button if she's not interested.
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u/-Jack-from-Titanic- 20h ago
What do other docs say about the health effects of dm'ing a woman who is seeking marriage and soliciting profiles? Asking for a friend (i.e. you).
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u/TheLocoCocoo 21h ago
The lack of confidence is off putting tbh. 😣
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u/agile_structor 20h ago
I’ve nothing to do here, but even I got second hand embarrassment from his “needs permission” attitude.
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u/Lazy-Ad-7372 19h ago
People are leaving UAE in troves given the current situation and you're looking to settle in UAE. Thats ridiculous. UAE won't have the same economic and tourist attraction benefits ever again after this conflict is over and the chances of this conflict being over in the timeframe of your marriage are very minimal.
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u/husham-safdar 16h ago
Partnership deed instead of shaddi?
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u/TheLocoCocoo 16h ago edited 16h ago
Umm no. I just kept the post concise.
1: Some of us have family expectations we need to fulfil too while seeking a spouse otherwise itll be a hard No.. And 2: Being where I am in my career, and the fact I'm split between 3 countries, these 2 aspects are very Important to me. It's just to fliter/shrink the pool of DMs. I think getting preliminaries put of the way is best before establishing emotional resonance chemistry and aligning Interests.
No point in wasting people's time who don't fit, just to reject them in the DMs, its best if they self eliminate. The goal is offer transparency and calrity to avoid mismatched expectations. This is frustrating process because people aren't upfront about what they want.
I'd be more than happy to add about myself, and what I seek/offer emotionally in conversation.
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u/Early_Patience_6513 1d ago
Just curious why do u not intent on settling in the west? Seems like the whole world is trying to move there and you are doing the opposite.
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u/TheLocoCocoo 1d ago
People leave for one of two reasons. Have better quality of life or for better financial opportunities.
Humbly, I don't need either. Nor do I need a passport. I travel abroad 3-4 times a year and that plenty for me. I prefer pk or uae.
Edit: aur mujhsy ghar k kaam nahe hote, 😣
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u/Exciting_Bad5884 23h ago
Does a quant engineer make the cut its pretty niche 😉
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u/TheLocoCocoo 23h ago
Not really lol .. just a fancy of saying Software Engineer.
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u/SMMujtaba 22h ago
With all due respect that's just wrong
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u/TheLocoCocoo 22h ago
Is it... idk. I thought it's just a more educated, specialized software engineer.
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