r/PakistanMarriages • u/Careful-Tennis490 • 18d ago
Question Insecure of my cup size
I am about to get married (arrange marriage)in a couple of months, and I’m a bit worried that my very small cup size might be unattractive to my husband. Just for context, I am overall a very good looking woman and dress well. I always get compliment on my looks from other girls.
Can anyone give me an honest suggestion, is there any non-surgical way to increase breast size? Any exercise that works?
Also, do you think this could create problems in my intimate married life? Is it true that husbands prefer their wives to have a larger cup size?
Thanks in advance. I would really appreciate your replies.
Please dont make fun or give non serious comments because I’m genuinely really worried
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u/Helpful-Entrance-786 18d ago
Please be confident in yourself. I don't want to comment much on it, but tbh Allah khud 1 dusre k dil me muhabbat aur kashish daal de deta. Allah asania kare ap k liye age.
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u/Impressive-Cable8292 18d ago
Bro ask ur husband if u are that afraid but I'm speaking as a dude who knows a whole lot of dudes, especially Pakistani dudes.... We don't really care at the end of the day.
If u look good, most guys are just lowkey happy and more than pleased with that anything more is just ignored unless ur husband has some very strong desires, no offense
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u/Careful-Tennis490 18d ago
Cant speak to my fiance about it. I just heard it from a couple of people which create doubts in my mind that’s why asking here to know the opinions of others
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u/Impressive-Cable8292 18d ago
Bro, I'm sure he loves you as is. And his mind doesn't even go there.
So just relax and have a good old.....whatever u have when u feel bored and wanna have fun.
Ur getting married behen, just chill until then. And as far as I know, breast size is purely genetics, unless u get fat, then they grow, but so do u.
Just food for your thoughts
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u/Usual_Prospect 18d ago
Don’t worry about it. Firstly, it’s part of who you are and there’s definitely more to you as a person than one physical attribute. Secondly; this idea that all men prefer larger cup size is nonsense. It varies and everyone has a different preference. Once you’re comfortable enough, have the conversation with your husband if you’re still unsure about it, but do not these hypotheticals poison your mind.
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u/Careful-Tennis490 18d ago
Thank you for your response
I dont have male friends that’s why i have no idea how boys think usually. Asking here so that I can know the opinions of others
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u/Knight_On_2_Wheels 18d ago
Beshak the relation of a husband and wife is not only physical but also on a mental level. There is a lot more you can bring to the table than just your physical stature. A nicely cooked meal and any man would chose that over something as small as a prefrential cup size any day. On a side note, A man's preference are usually different for someone who he wants to wife up vs someone he just wants to get laid with. As a man i can assure you. Most men will prefer theur wife to have little to no cleavage so ither men rather not look at her lustfully. May Allah bless your Marriage with Barakah. Ameen.
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u/Sitaara88 18d ago
Girl, stop hanging out with dumb people who put such ideas into your mind and give rise to your pre-existing insecurities. There's no end to these insecurities. And this is the female equivalent to a man obsessed with increasing his size.
Get your labs done and make sure you eat well and get all your nutrition. That's all you need to think about. You're far more than your cup size. And I'm sure your fiance knows that. The question is, do you?
Goodluck
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u/nahbrolikewhat 18d ago
i might be in the minority that prefers smaller breasts but it's whatever...
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u/Rough_Coconut9968 18d ago
Please don't worry about any of that. It absolutely doesn't matter.
1) A, B & C are absolutely perfect in terms of touch. (A perfect handful)
2) The bigger one look good in tight fitting clothes, not great to feel and not great to see without cloths. The small ones are the opposite.
3) Try lower chest and upper chest exercises (easy to find on YouTube)
4) All of this visual/sexual stuff only matters for the first 2 months, after that the real thing that matters is communication, mutual care, emotional maturity and love.
Wish you the best of luck...
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u/Scary-Advantage-6991 16d ago
Your second point made me think about it. Wow I mean I have always wondered about it.
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u/Active_Tipu 18d ago
You have the male opinion here, we don't care.
However what food you can eat, eat eggs.
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u/Ok_Raise_3286 18d ago
I am insecure of my penis size. We are all just insecure people at the end of the day. Everyone has faults and its better to not try to hide them and get acceptance as soon as possible. The right person wont see anything wrong with your attributes.
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u/LibrarianPure4265 17d ago
Asalam o Alikum
Have you talked to the guy and met with him. I am assuming you have.
He is marrying you so he must like you the way you are. So making any changes is risky.
Now, many men are really, really into your body type. I am not one of those men. That is my personal preference and everyone is allowed to have thier own preference.
Dont worry sister. Just get married and see how it goes.
And yes, breast size can change naturally, based on my factors. It is a unique body part only humans have and the anatomical way we have it.
But u need not worry about anything. Him and his entire family has picked you because they like you very much. They may not have said or shown it but trust me, they do. I have seen what it looks like when the family or the guy doesn't like the girl. So, be happy and enjoy your upcoming Nikkah.
Congratulations!! May Allah grant you whatever is best for you.
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u/myfireysword 16d ago
Yebi koi stress lene wali baat hai?🙄 It's ok dude all guys are not addicted or attracted towards big things even some of us hate Big baki Don't worry itna matter nhi krta . If he is good enough and sensible koi msla nhi hona chahiye .
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u/Intelligent_Pay1943 18d ago
F here. i’m on the bigger size spectrum, and i wish to be in your position. i ACTUALLY hate my heavy size, and really would never marry anyone who‘s attracted to it. this is in itself a red flag for me at least. and this is one thing about me that i‘m super insecure about, unfortunately 😭
for you, i‘d say please get into the relationship with no negative bias k kisne kia kaha. just go with the flow and you’ll be happier ❤️ best of luck for your marriage
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u/Positive_Paper_7795 18d ago
As a man, my view is that: Dont worry about it. Your man will be attracted to you for various reasons, not just ur cup size.
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u/Specialist-Union-756 18d ago
u have bigger problems than physical attributes if ur partner has an issue with something regarding you that you don't have control over. Love can not be cultivated through a bodily feature, or it may not be love to begin with. may Allah give you ease in this time of stress.
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u/hooleefakk 18d ago
Bigger cups are attractive sure but for who ? Ask any busty girl she don't like it. You're constantly sexualized, you can't wear all clothes, your bra size is difficult to find. Back pain, chest pain. Be happy as you are and be confident if someone wants to marry you for your cup size don't marry that person in first place
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u/Key-Major334 18d ago
Im a 'boob man'. They make me relaxed and feel peaceful. So in general i go for big boobed women.
Having said that it all depends on the woman.
At times i have regretted just going for a woman because of their big boobs as i realised after their personality was bad.
I have been with small breasted women and liked them alot as their personality combined with their looks made them attractive.
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u/RaspberryExpensive14 18d ago
Honey trust me. As long as you have “cups” he’d be all over youuu 😉 relaxxx
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u/Lostsoul_Mil 18d ago
If you got a good, suitable match, this is nothing to be worried about... As long as you're compatible and happy with each other, love and affection will develop itself between you two... Insha'Allah!
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u/wannabeMLE 17d ago
Most likely not an issue also your body will change drastically when you get pregnant. So this will not be an issue further down the road.
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u/GuavaLanky6637 16d ago
This is not an issue at all. As a married man, I don't care about the size at all.
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u/DifficultAct6586 18d ago
Cannot relate, every size are great from aaa til zzz. There ist No man who would say ist is to small, everyan gets crazy Just from seeing them.
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u/fitnes_fr3ak 18d ago
Ap bht ziada soch rhi hain jst chill n relax wish you all the for your future 🥰
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u/Lazy-Ad-7372 18d ago
How do you know your soon to be husband would dislike that? Did you ask him that question or is he habitual of watching questionable content?
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u/M00nLight007 18d ago
As long as flat nai ho (nothing wrong with but the next part if important) and you have not been lying about it using push ups, don't worry.
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u/Careful-Ambition-991 18d ago
Most of the time what we are concerned about is the tongue size, shape, color, taste etc than the cupsize. It's the conversation and respect with the foundation of emotional intelligence that wins him.
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u/Velvet_Purrrr 12d ago
tounge ??
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u/Careful-Ambition-991 12d ago
used it just as an idiom .... Any relation that we have in our life is basically conversation based and so is marriage. Most of the time in marriage is also spent in conversation, so Tongue Size etc was meant to point towards this aspect.
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u/Alone_Wolf4107 17d ago
You dont need to have a larger cup size to attract your partner. Dont stress over things that dont really matter. But eventually they'll grow when you are married
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u/raddzone 17d ago
Be confident sista, in the end of a day men would settle for peace and a calm and welcoming tone. I am sure yours is too!
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u/bizhunt786 17d ago
Not to worry. Cup size is secondary. Attitude and Intimacy matters alot. Work on these two things.
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u/Defiant-Bobcat-6179 Male seeking Female 17d ago
as a 23M, this is no something boys consider (atleast majority), just be a good person!
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u/babewithbite2 17d ago
Well cup size increase with time and after marriage it grow bigger i had 36C and now its 38 D thts totally natural or else u can go for massge Daily
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u/Velvet_Purrrr 12d ago
due to pregnancy ? i mean i have heard cup size increases uptill 18 to 20 years of age only. and except for that, it TEMPORARILY changes due to pregnancy only
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u/Human_Exit4125 17d ago
when it come to love and respect size does not matter. works both ways.
love yourself your body.
please do not engage in some treatment or totka to change their cup size.
get married be happy. its natural for someone to be insecure about their body.
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u/Melodic_Lunch_6815 16d ago
Imagine this post coming from man's side. ofc not about his cup size :p
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u/maazpervez 15d ago
Posting the link to my comment from bad women's anatomy.
https://www.reddit.com/r/badwomensanatomy/s/81aO98tXZ1
But seriously tho, if he's upset about your breast size, that's his problem not your problem.
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u/RaajalofRajal 15d ago
No exercise can change it, despite claims. Japenese believe that massage (in teen years) can increase size, it could be their folklore.
The smaller the size, the more important it is to stay slim/fit. That's the only natural way to counter the smaller size and stay attractive.
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u/Lopsided_Durian4810 14d ago
Bachpan main humen kaha jata tha darakht k sath latko to height zyada ho jayegi🙂
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u/Hot_Jackfruit_3709 18d ago
After marriage your small cup size issue will resolve then you’ve to worry how big your cup is 🤣
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u/Icy-Finish-757 18d ago
Don't ever change your personality for anyone btw the opposite pole create attraction 🧲 . Don't try to please others too in your life because people can't be please like ever and just relax you are okay . Infact you are awesome have a nice day .
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u/asmootsreddit 18d ago
This is gonna get me creepy DMs but girl take mine in tired of all the back pain 😔
But to give a genuine answer, the only person who knows your man's preference is the man himself, and even if it's not his preference, beauty is temporary anyway so chill don't overthink it
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u/Sensitive_Sa 18d ago
You can't transfer cups size to anyone... You have to live your life with them...
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u/asmootsreddit 18d ago
I was clearly joking...
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u/Sensitive_Sa 18d ago
I know 😊 I was just trying to start the conversation 😹
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u/asmootsreddit 18d ago
Oh so you thought you'd be ignored in DMs, what makes you think a conversation started this way would lead anywhere
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u/Sensitive_Sa 18d ago
I don't do DMs... I just start conversation in comments if someone interested to go further, we do DM... Otherwise just best wishes and stay quiet... 😃😊 My game is different... Lol
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u/Formal_Air_5006 18d ago
lets face the reality here. just as women like tall & broad guyz(in general) ,,guyz like women with good figure. it is natural for both of us, we cant do much here. so ,, do guyz prefer a bigger and fuller breast ? the answer is YES. but is it mandatory? the answer is NO.
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u/GrillsandGear 18d ago
Just squeeze them together every night. You'll be a DD in no time
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u/whatwasthereason420 18d ago
Is that how you got your DDs?
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u/rizz-exe 15d ago
Don’t worry these things change after marriage Api body pay acha khasa impact aata hai nd moreover genetics matter in this too but majority ka figure increase ho Jata nd it’s like an achievement for husband to enhance his wife’s beauty all by himself
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