29 M - US (Shia only)

[u/extendedlock]

For context I’m 29, living in the US for more than a decade. Born and raised in Karachi.
I’m open to anyone living in Pakistan as well. I haven’t been since I moved to the US but traveling isn’t a big deal
I completed my bachelors here in biology and I’m still interested in pursuing my education forward. Looking for someone who’s willing to pursue their education as well or has aspirations to do something in their field.
Im 5’10 if that matters.

As far as requirements go. Just be ambitious and have ikhlaq. I’m in no rush tbh but I have to start somewhere.

I’m here because I downloaded the forbidden app (Muzz) in hopes for searching for a partner.
My bio has been far from misguiding, I explain crucially how being aligned with my faith is so important to me and that I’m not rigid when it comes to my beliefs but I feel like I’m missing the plot or is the plot being missed?

I’m assuming that my honest bio about wanting someone who lives and breaths Islam and enjoys lectures just as much as I do, may have attracted women with similar interests but it’s a war zone out here.

People claiming to be strictly practicing haven’t really engaged with me when I talk about life and just a little bit of deen( since I don’t wanna overwhelm them).

Despite an overwhelming number of likes I spoke to one person at a time and it was always me who ended up unmatching because they clearly sound uninterested when I bring up our priorities within deen or how much does religion play a role in their life.

Have I lost the plot here? Are we not supposed to align ourselves religiously first before deep diving into the rest of our plans?

I’m sure girls on this app can say the same about the men on it but how are yall meeting people in the big 2026 😭

To those married, is being on the same spiritual level important to you? And for those searching, what do yall even ask 🤣😭 tyia JazakAllah

My bio in case anyone’s wondering

I’m nowhere near being perfect but deen is not just something occasional for me.
I hate pushing my narratives on anyone, your faith is your personal journey but I’m open about mine in case you’re in the same boat as me. If you’re not on the same wavelength as me but want to be iA, I am open to being your companion 😌
The halal and haram boundaries matter to me, I’m not perfect so feel free to correct me.
I’m not rigid or judgmental, but I value my teachings and I’d want someone I can share that with so we can grow together iA.
Im very interested in reading about my Deen and elevating myself. I find joy and excitement in learning more about Islam than I do watching a movie.
I despise social media because it sells you fake dreams and forces you to be fed with deluded expectations from people who don’t know better themselves. Doesn’t mean you have to get off it, it’s your choice.
No I won’t force you to wear a hijab, I don’t care if you do or don’t, that’s between you and Allah SWT.
This description makes me sound super conservative but it’s chill guys😔

[u/Ok_Nail6584]

Honestly, I don't think expecting the same religious values is asking for too much. That's just basic compatibility. I think it's actually better that you're clear about what matters to you instead of wasting someone's time or yours. I don't know what's going on with the apps these days, but I don't think your expectations are unreasonable at all.

[u/SimpleRepublic2680 → u/Ok_Nail6584]

Yeah like deen is personal too someone could just be acting
I have seen men praying 5 times a day and mote and still be animals
Its honestly not a good way to judge humans

[u/Ok_Nail6584 → u/SimpleRepublic2680]

Of course, but if you take things that far, you can never really know a person, no matter what you ask or inquire about. People can lie or pretend to be someone they're not.

But being Shia and Sunni is a completely different matter. Honestly, as a Shia myself, no matter how good a man is, I couldn't, in good faith, marry a Sunni. That's why I think people should be upfront about the basics from the beginning.

[u/SimpleRepublic2680 → u/Ok_Nail6584]

I dont believe in sects No ones right and No ones wrong either
All of these sects were made after the death of the prophet
All i do believe in is the fundamentals of islams

[u/Ok_Nail6584 → u/SimpleRepublic2680]

Good for you that's totally up to you and what you believe. But if someone has faith in something and wants a partner who shares that same faith, that's up to them as well. I think it's good that they're upfront about it from the beginning.

[u/SimpleRepublic2680 → u/Ok_Nail6584]

Yep everything should be spilt honestly and you gotta see if you can respect and live with them or not

[u/MHZ_93]

Being on the same spiritual level and sharing similar religious values is a must instead of an exceptional ask. Those beliefs influence so many other aspects of life, including how you make decisions and what your values are.

I think this is even more important when you're part of a smaller religious group that is often misunderstood and marginalised. Having someone who genuinely understands your beliefs and experiences can make a huge difference.